Read 'Book of Pook' - no idea how to start enacting changes.

VoyPerdiendo1 · 2013-08-26T11:22:48+00:00

start lifting
think what else to do

[deleted] · 2013-08-25T19:33:31+00:00

You should pick up a martial art or try rock climbing. Go buy a pistol and start shooting it at the range. Get your open water scuba diving certification and go scuba dive. Go hunting, go surfing, go backpacking.

What is something you are afraid of, or something you would feel uneasy doing? Go do that.

Amuro_Rey · 2013-08-26T17:11:02+00:00

In your post, you wrote a lot about your hobbies, the books you've read, and even playing guitar. But not a single sentence in regards to approaching attractive women. I say start with that, and then you'll gradually realize what you need to do.

[deleted] · 2013-08-25T20:33:16+00:00

So you've got the mental part of it down? Well done, that's the toughest part IMO.

As far as hobbies go, the list is endless. I like the suggestion of getting a pistol and hitting the range once a week. I'd say do anything and everything you can that makes you feel bad ass. I don't know how old you are, but shit man, you can't swim!? That'd be A#1 on my list if I was you. Got a friend who can show you? It's not a difficult thing to learn, basically all you have to do is not panic and you're golden. Also, I know it's cliché 'round these parts, but join a gym if you haven't already. Lift heavy, lift frequently. The resulting self esteem boost will make trying new things seem fun instead of intimidating. You've already got the ball rolling, time to make it snowball, bud.

Simply put, get out of your comfort zone until you're comfortable being out of it. Then you'll see that your comfort zone can and will expand in any direction(s) you like. Own your life, push your boundaries, be yourself, be a man, and have fun doing it.

Confidence, as you know, is like gravity.. All it takes is a little push.

So fucking do it!

[deleted] · 2013-08-26T12:55:17+00:00

www.meetup.com

There are lots and lots of people getting together to do lots and lots of stuff. Find an interesting meetup in your area and go. Look for "outdoor" or "adventure" meetups if you want to do stuff like white water rafting or rock climbing. Look for boardgame meetups if that's more your thing. Whatever you want to do there are probably other people doing it.

Also try a martial arts school or gun range. Or, check out Habitat for Humanity or Toastmasters.

If you want to go a little wilder, see if there is a BDSM scene in your neck of the woods and try going to a few munches. A man who knows how to tie a good knot can always make friends...

Also: I know you said you can't dance, but ballroom dancing is the shit. Find a dance school in your area and take an intro to tango class. You will find that a) ballroom encourages men to act like men (hold your frame and lead!), b) you will be popular and can cultivate abundance mentality since there are more women than men in almost all classes, and c) it's great fun, good for your balance, good for you confidence, and not bad for getting laid.

da-way · 2013-08-25T17:46:36+00:00

Read no more mr nice guy it has a step by step approach on how to stop being a nice guy.

Title	Read 'Book of Pook' - no idea how to start enacting changes.
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Date	August 25, 2013 4:47 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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