Should I start approaching right away, or should I wait until I have some shit together first (fashion, hairstyle, working out, etc.)

JamesVirtus · 2015-01-15T10:34:15+00:00

Right Now! No bullshit, No delays just Start.

galgalim · 2015-01-15T07:20:14+00:00

You will never fully be the person you hoped to be, and that's good (we should always strive to be more). Don't wait. Love yourself for who you are and be confident. Work on getting your shit together, for sure, but if you wait for all that to happen, you could be waiting for years...Or forever...

tulio2 · 2015-01-15T17:08:37+00:00

definitely wait. by the time your thirty you will be way more mature. girls won't have anything to do with a guy until your perfect. godammit... now i've forgotten what the sarcasm emoticon is. best girl i ever got was because i was stupid and i could tell she liked me and i just went for it.

ocantu1987 · 2015-01-15T19:41:06+00:00

I have been currently thinking about the same thing, trying to get more hobbies going, and improving my fashion!

I have been holding off approaches for a while. Time to get out of retirement lol.

Zombiefowl · 2015-01-15T11:35:07+00:00

imo approaching helps you learn very quickly.

you're probably going to flame out a ton just because you're not used to holding a capturing conversation or show enough confidence in your body language.

however, with each approach; for me at lease; I improve slightly.

I run the approach through my head over and over again. Think about where I went wrong, what I could have said differently, what i will say next time, what I could have said, and what I didn't say.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2015-01-15T15:19:57+00:00

Do both! Developing your social skills (i.e. approaching, going out, hanging out with friends, meeting women, etc.) is a part of developing that good foundation.

This weekend I met a lawyer who was very successful financially, but part of me felt bad for him because he was incredibly lonely. He had suicidal thoughts because his limiting beliefs told him, "no one will ever love me". He had his shit together except for his social life because he never took the time to develop his social skills.

That's on the extreme end of things, but having relationships (whether friends, monogamous relationships, FWBs, etc.) is a part of self-development and just having a good life overall.

Title	Should I start approaching right away, or should I wait until I have some shit together first (fashion, hairstyle, working out, etc.)
Author	AnEpiphanyTooLate
Upvotes	10
Comments	6
Date	January 15, 2015 6:45 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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