Attraction vs Desire

JimmyTheIntern · 2013-09-10T19:17:44+00:00

You're disappointed and aggrieved because they're not what you imagined them to be, but have not yet accepted them as they are. A woman, properly managed, adds much more value to your life than a dog, and it makes no more sense to be angry with a woman for being a woman than it does to be angry with a dog for being a dog.

The anger will pass as the pill settles in.

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-09-10T22:17:52+00:00

I don't know how old you are, but sex drive decreases with age. That should be some comfort for you.

If you see a beautiful woman and you find yourself uncomfortably attracted to her, just look for her flaws, both physical and character flaws. That should temper your attraction to her.

JimmyTheIntern · 2013-09-10T19:26:21+00:00

Decide what you're ideal situation with women is. You need to be extremely specific. Write it down. Once you know, in detail, what you would consider the "perfect" situation - one that would eliminate all of the negative things you anticipate, you can begin working on getting just that. Post it here and I will be able to help with some specific action steps, etc.

[deleted] · 2013-09-10T20:26:11+00:00

It's sad that the world is this way, for most of time you'd think women would be nothing but a blessing. someone to help with the work and bear you children.

redpilldude · 2013-09-11T04:45:17+00:00

Or current MGTOW who has effectively squashed his attraction to them?

I'm mostly MGTOW. I was married for 5 years, but the marriage didn't work out. We were just too different, and we were looking for different things from marriage. I got screwed over in the divorce. Lots of people say that divorce courts favor women, and for the most part, they are correct. Since my divorce, my eyes have been opened to how fucked up marriage is for men in most parts of the world. Now, I can't ever see myself getting married again. I just don't want to risk getting fucked over in divorce again.

As for squashing my attraction to women, I don't really have any way to do that. I'm still physically attracted to women, but I haven't pursued any long-term relationships in several years.

bearpotato · 2013-09-11T04:55:14+00:00

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sour_grapes

Title	Attraction vs Desire
Author	JimmyTheIntern
Upvotes	7
Comments	22
Date	September 10, 2013 6:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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