I would like to think my situation is somewhat unique.

I have been in the Marine Corps for 14 years. I have 6 years until retirement thereby receiving a pension and other benefits for life.

I was married for 8 years, have two kids. Divorce was painless (2 yrs ago, separated 3 yrs ago, had to be separated for a year). I pay reasonable child support for my income etc. ($700 a month). I feel very lucky considering the horror stories I have heard.

I got a vasectomy a year ago and will not be having anymore kids. Two is enough and you couldn't pay me to have more not that I don't absolutely love the ones I have.

I have been saving and investing since I was 21 years old and well on my way to having a couple million down the road. I have no debt and I have a minimalist lifestyle. I don't need to be married to accomplish this.

I received orders back in Feb for Japan, for two years. I leave in Oct.

Been dating current girlfriend for a little over a year and this my issue. She was married for 8 years. She married early around 19 I believe. Says she hasn't been with a lot of guys. She says...

If I wasn't leaving for two years in a month I wouldn't even be considering marriage. We have been talking about it. I have been going back and forth considering the pro and cons. I even have a prenup done but I hear those don't always hold up in court. With me having a nice nest egg, I oils see her going after it attacking the prenup.

I feel I would be losing my freedom and shifting the power balance of the relationship. I also have to face the fact that one day she wants to get married and if I don't feel it then I should probably end it soon.

-she doesn't want kids, I can't have any -She is willing to sign the prenup giving me absolute control over my accounts in my name, pension, debts separated etc. -she doesn't make a lot of money and needs to go back to school -she is hot but I know looks will fade -doesn't know how to cook but I don't need a woman to cook for me, I can do that myself -has shown a few red flags which concern me -I don't need a relationship, I could be perfectly fine being single in fact I like being single. Doesn't bother me one bit -not afraid of losing her

Now, with all things considered I just don't know. I feel bad because financially if we get married she will be in a lot better place. Right now she doesn't make good money and has to pay like $300 just for health insurance. She has found a female roommate which she is starting to move in with. I am willing to help her out a bit financially while we date.

I don't consider myself blue pill. I was definitely in my early years. I see relationships for what they are now. After all I know about marriage it turns me off. I'm looking at it from a business stand point.

We get along well. She tries to help around the house. Pays for what she can.

I'm worried that its too early. That I may regret marriage once I come back home. I feel like with moving to Japan has troubled the waters a bit between us.

As of right now the plan is for me to go to Japan single. Then perhaps one day after more time I will be able to make up my mind.

She lets me run things. Takes personal responsibility. We both love gaming, which is a huge plus cause I love computers. She is an atheist and so am I. No offense to any religious types here, but it's refreshing to find a atheist woman. We tend to have a lot of good discussions. We both prescribe to the idea of "not keeping up with the Joneses". She is financially responsible and respects my judgement on my financial viewpoints.

Just throwing this all out there to see if anyone has some advice. Worried about the old bait and switch...but with a prenup, what do I have to lose. If it ever got bad I can just leave. Then again, she most likely will turn into a raging crazy woman, lawyering up getting my prenup overturned and me regretting ever getting married.

TLDR: moving to Japan for 2 years, should I marry my gf if a prenup is involved and we won't be having children.

Edit: Moved her stuff out of the house this past weekend. Feels good, I feel in my gut I'm doing the right thing for me. The only reason I was contemplating marriage was for financial reasons, and I know that. In the end, I knew it was a bad idea but somehow she had me doubting myself. In the end I don't think I could ever get married. After a year of this relationship idk if I want to even be in a relationship. There is just something so peaceful with being single, having the place to yourself, not having to answer or explain yourself. Thanks for all the advice.