OF all the things i've read basically being natural is what works best.

Second, i'm fustrated and a little broken hearted but the best thing to do for me at this point is to boost my confidence back up and feel desirable and take risks. For me at this point its not about a number its about putting myself back on the firing block and facing my demons and just try to get an active social life again.

So i'm out with a group of friends this was impromptu as well because I was actually just walking around town by myself just trying to get into my zone, trying to feel awkward and just really embracing the hussle and bussle of life.

I get a text from a buddy saying there's a band gig going on. So at this point i'm like whatever i'll just go all i'm doing is walking around town drinking coffee trying to maintain some soberness about me.

I arrive at the gig immediately go into social mode and make a few quick friends after some brief introductions from my buddy. They decide that they want to hit a bar so we go.

At the bar i see a table of 4 women and right when i'm about to go over and chat with them another guy swoops in and leans in on the table and starts talking to them.

I walk back to my group and say maybe next time. And they say why next time he's a stranger you're a stranger fuck it. I agree and walk back over.

I position myself next to the guy but facing the girl i'm interested in. I didn't have time to come up with anything clever so all I said was.

"what are we talking about over here?"

the girl i'm interested perks up and the dude sorta looks at me like who are you? the girl i'm interested in goes.

"we weren't talking about anything actually. how are you?"

I say

"i'm fine actually just being nosy apologies to you guys if i interrupted anything"

At this point i'm not really nervous i just have a sorta bitter fuck it attitude which i know is wrong. and that will come into play later.

she's like "no you weren't interrupting, what's your name?"

"i'm keysmachine" and right when I'm about to ask her name she puts her hand out and goes "i'm mallory, nice to meet you"

at this point the dude walks off. And now i'm like oh shit i'm in pickup mode think, think, think.

"so what brings you ladies out tonight? you go to school around here?"

"girls night" all the girls have a laugh "and yeah i actually graduated from the local university here"

"what's your degree in?" she's like "general studies, its alright"

now here's where the pickup goes wrong.

"general studies? sooo what exactly do you do with a degree like that?" she laughs and goes nothing really i'm working though

"i'm like interesting so you sorta wasted your time in school then?" "uhh not really I did learn a lot" "that's cool then, in my opinon though the local university here is pretty garbage"

and boom she went on defensive bitch mode

"what do you mean garbage did you go to the school?" "yeah actually i'm currently going about to graduate you know anything about the visual communications degree?" "no what's it all about?" "nothing i mean its a long explanation" "right... so why do you think the school sucks if you also go?"

all i could think of is how the parking sucks

"the parking is terrible and i dunno its just not good"

they all start laughing because now i'm stumbling So i eject by saying

"anyway you ladies have a good night, enjoy yourselves"

and i walk off. Now obviously it started well. She booted the other guy out instantly when i walked over. I know where it went wrong. But how do you think i could have done better?