Younger Sister?

[deleted] · 2013-09-21T03:59:51+00:00

Be a positive father-like figure for her. You can't be her dad but you can teach her about the world and be a good example of what a man should be. At least once a week go out with her like to lunch or for a hike or to a movie. Teach her to focus on her studies instead of on boys through high school and at around college/ late college to start searching for a husband but not to panic and rush and be desperate and hysterical if by 25 she can't find anyone either.

yoursisterlovedick · 2013-09-21T17:12:08+00:00

My father died when I was 19 and my little sister was 13. We were already very close, so when our father died I became the father figure. She lost her virginity when she was 15, but she's still with the same guy now she's 18.

I simply talked to her, I was someone she could look up to and someone she always tried to impress. It depends a lot of what kind of girl your little sister is. My little sister was always very receptive to red pill ideas, but we're raised in a red pill way, because that was how my father was, so it was easy, I simply took over.

Show your little sister that your mother isn't the man of the house and become someone your sister can look up to. Raising kids is much like seducing girls: take charge but always with a playful attitude. You're not her friend, you're not an equal, you're above her (I'm a close friend to my sister now, I've taught her what I can, she's on her own now and she's doing well).

Gold_Leaf_Initiative · 2013-09-21T19:21:03+00:00

Take her aside and mentor her. Spend time with her. Let yourself be a positive influence in her life. Give her rides places, take her hiking with you, to the beach, do things with her. Talk to her like an adult. Steer her away from negative, impulsive choices.

Try to minimize the effects of media in her life. Teach her that gossip is worthless, that self-worth and integrity is everything. Teach her that society is wrong about a lot of stuff, and that she needs to focus on developing her intellect so that she can make appropriate decisions for herself.

Don't let her fall in the web of bullshit that is popular culture.

Peteriscoo69 · 2013-12-28T23:02:15+00:00

I'm really glad I found this thread. I'm in a similar situation with a sister who's a little younger and I'm half the state away at college. Shy, couch potato, not many friends outside of school, sheltered (no internet/social media/cell phone) and to be honest I think that, once she comes out of her shell, she's going to be an awesome lady. However, I still feel like I've let her down for not being there. I had a tough time in high school and I just want her to have a better time than I did.

Any advice for me since I can't drag my Jr highschool sister out to my university and I can't swing coming home all the time since I'm working out here.

Carbone · 2013-09-21T02:56:31+00:00

This is a good question

Hmmm I don't know what you should do and I know that this comment is not really helpfull

I would try to be the most alpha man in her life , invite her in your world so like that she will try to get a man equal to you.

My English is not perfect and I'm on a phone.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2013-09-22T07:41:28+00:00

She fears being ignored and fears abandonment.

Punish any form or drama-creating, overly demanding, or disrespectful behavior towards you by asking her to do something for you. If she refuses or continues such behavior, ignore her, exclude her, and/or removing yourself from her company.

Reward her with attention and obvious praise for loyalty, respectfulness, and showing a desire to please you.

Rewards her the same way for focusing on her studies. Praise her for completing homework. Ask her detailed questions about her classes. ignore any talk about her friends or about popular culture. Pay very keen attention when she talks about anything male.

Do your utmost to discourage her from having ANY serious "dating" relationships before she graduates high school.

Drill it into her head that 1) relationships will fail painfully in high school 2) teenage boys are unable to love her. 3) they are not positive learning experiences for women, high school relationships are "baggage" she carries for the next 30-50 years. 4) Men with value WILL judge her negatively for all past lovers and failed relationships.

I would say, tell her if she dates anyone in high school you'll lose all respect for her and probably stop talking to her.

Title	Younger Sister?
Author	Possibly47
Upvotes	13
Comments	7
Date	September 21, 2013 2:17 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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