"psycho ex boyfriend"

Exactly_what_I_think · 2013-11-24T14:47:46+00:00

She is shifting blame to you.

Stranded issue; I am perfect. I never can find a good man. All men are bastards.

Why do you give a fuck? Do you want to reup with this one?

[deleted] · 2013-11-24T10:49:13+00:00

Why do you give a fuck? She has clearly hamstered her way into thinking it. The exact same actions and behaviours will be interpreted differently by women dependent on time, place, who it was etc.

OMG he's such a psycho, he told me what I had to wear. I swear he would have been angry if I hadn't done it.
OMG, he's such a gentleman, he told me what he wanted me to wear for our date. He's so manly.

wakeupzombie · 2013-11-24T18:08:03+00:00

There's zero reason to care what the girl from 2 years ago thinks about you.

If she's talking trash in such a way as to affect your current prospects, that's an issue. If you think you can directly confront her in a way that you would both communicate as civil adults, it might be worth it. Otherwise, it's up to the more up to date women in your life to back you up.

aTRPbeginner · 2013-11-24T19:48:45+00:00

Ignore her. She's setting herself up for failure and the best thing you can do is act normal, lest you become the psycho she makes you out to be.

Exactly_what_I_think · 2013-11-24T20:54:04+00:00

As everyone is saying ignore.

If you actually meet someone who asks you about it if you want to shut them up you can reframe:

So what does that say about her if she was willing to date a psycho for 2 years?

Or if you want to deflect you can go with an agree and amplify with something like /u/skinny_bitches said:

Yep, I was really a controlling psycho ex-BF telling her to wear some hot dresses for our dates

LuciusExitius · 2013-11-25T17:28:34+00:00

Who cares, anyone who brings it up too you just laugh about it. She just doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy so she's got her hamster in full spin mode. Get over it and adopt a DGAF attitude.

notapussy-punk · 2013-11-26T05:28:18+00:00

If you're just now hearing about this, I'm not sure what you're worried about. If she's still saying this after 2 years, just stay away from her. Might be knives around or something.

chucktown2012 · 2013-11-26T14:03:19+00:00

Nothing is ever their fault. Plus, they use sympathy to get what they want. Portraying themselves as victims is standard MO.

FortunateBum · 2013-11-26T20:02:19+00:00

The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.

--Oscar Wilde

Title	"psycho ex boyfriend"
Author	604allday
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	November 24, 2013 10:33 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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