Help. I can't get past the first meeting

youlovethisish · 2015-03-12T19:18:51+00:00

Your frame here is a little destructive - sounds like you're in a negative feedback loop.

Fact is, you need to switch your thinking. If things don't work out, then you've a) learned something, and b) weeded out another potentially useless person from your life. There could be numerous reasons for a first date to not work. They could either be in your control or out of your control. The best way to think about this is to consider yourself a "work in progress" in regards to the things you can control, and be mentally unaffected by the things you can't control. Keep plugging away, read Models by Mark Manson, write accurate and detailed FRs and get feedback, and stop thinking about dating as a process where you're trying to build a pyramid and it just falls apart. You're LEARNING - you need to be more excited about the process of learning than the outcome (sleeping with/dating a girl).

Outcome independence (not attaching emotions to how an interaction ends) and abundance mentality (realizing that there are millions of opportunities out there and you'll be just fine if you screw up one, two, a thousand) are key to progress. That, and self-improvement, social calibration, and escalation. GO FOR IT!

RubyCool · 2015-03-12T19:57:38+00:00

Firstly, you have to relax because you're thinking waaayyy too much, brother, thus creating "game dysfunction". Like they say erectile dysfunction is mostly mental, the same rules apply here. One last thing, you shouldn't be putting too much effort into one particular girl. This is violating a masculine maxim: don't pull all your eggs in 1 basket.

Title	Help. I can't get past the first meeting
Author	C0g0lfw0rld
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	March 12, 2015 6:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2ytl8c/help_i_cant_get_past_the_first_meeting/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/help-i-cant-get-past-the-first-meeting.1385227 https://theredarchive.com/post/1385227

Comments