How I built my Inner-Game

Good afternoon gents (and ladies if you are posting here). This is my first post so I really wanted to preface this with a short section about myself.

I am by no means a dating coach and nor do I profess to be. My posts will purely be based on my opinion and my life experiences of implementing all of the strategies you will see commonly talked about today within the “seduction” field. Personally - I have seen a huge transformation from around 8 years ago when I decided I needed to take control of my romantic life. I want to talk about the steps and actions I took to make this improvement. I can only hope to those that read this and my subsequent posts that it will provide you with some impetus to embark on your own course of self improvement that will lead you to a better quality of life.

I feel that Inner-Game is the single most important area to develop when looking to implement all of the information you will take soak up from this community. I now also consider it to be the strongest area of my own game. For my first post, I want to talk about something very simple that I did to improve my Inner-Game.

Whenever I did something successful with women and it was appropriate to do so…. I simply asked them - “why”. By asking “why”, I was able to instill and subsequently reinforce my own beliefs that what I was doing was right. When you KNOW what you are doing is right, you will be amazed at how successful you will become.

You see a girl checking you out at the bar. You approach, talk etc. I would make a point of asking – “What made you check me out?”.

You take a girl out on a date after picking her up at a bar. During the date I would ask, “So why did you agree to go on a date with me?”

You take a girl home after having a number of dates with her and sleep with her. I would ask “What made you feel comfortable enough to sleep with me?”

I never saw this as “fishing for compliments”. For me, it was about hearing first-hand what specifically I did that was right to make sure that I could this again in the future. Before long, I had build up a number of positive comments about my own physical appearance, mannerisms and actions from girls that I had hooked up with. This made me feel absolutely great. With that feeling of greatness I developed confidence and the belief that what I was saying and doing was right based on the fact a girl I had been with in X situation told me so.

Try it. See how you get on with it. Best of luck.

-the5aint

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[–]5aint[S] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Its certainly about the way you word it and the tone of voice you use. I'd always say it in a very flirtatious and jokey way:

"Soo.. ya know.... I caught you checking me out. What was it, my lovely trainers you couldnt keep your eye off?"

If she says "Well, you are hot!". God damn take that compliment and put it on the shelf. You KNOW that what you have done in that day has caused a girl to think you were hot!

Dude, if she says "Youre funny" - well. Its time to get into action! You can literally laugh a girl in to bed, i'm not even joking. Its a huge compliment and girls like a guy who can use humour well. These compliments you have been given in the past, you dont necessarily have to reply to them. You can just store them up in your little jar in your head. The next time you are thinking about approaching a girl you can say to yourself "Well, last week Sarah told me I was funny. Im gonna crack some great jokes here. Lucy told me I was hot too. Hang on, this cant actually go wrong. This will work and im going to be successful". Its just about harnessing those compliments you have been given and using them to boost your confidence. The end product is just a rock solid Inner-Game.

These also double up as super-solid "direct qualification" questions that when she answers, you can look at moving on to the comfort phase and getting her to invest in you. Just an added bonus :)

Give it a go!

[–]velvet_drape 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]5aint[S] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

As I mentioned in the above comment, these are also "direct/hard qualification" questions so you could also think of these in that manner. I think the further "down the line" (the emotional progression model) that you are down, the less resistance you get. It is certainly harder to get an answer like this in a nightclub. On a date however, much easier.

Depending on the question asked back at me can depend on your response. So for example I have seen the following:

girl giggles and starts to act really shy "Ahhh, I dunno, you just seemed my type*

Here, the girl is obviously quite nervous about talking about her feelings. If this was asked at a later date you'd get a more solid answer. I might reply here with something like:

"Hey, dont be scared. You were super hot thats why I came over to talk to you in the first place". You'll often find that they will then tell you why. Its essentially showing them that you are confident about talking about feelings too and that you can share them together.

There is the ugly side what I refer to as the '10' side:

girl looks me dead in the eye "Heh, fishing for compliments are we?"

She knows she's good, she probably knows I'm good because I have approached her unlike the 50 other guys who didnt. This type of girl needs a more solid response:

"Nah, I get them enough. I just wanna know that I'm as irresistible as I think I am" (with a little smirk on my face, looking her back in the eye).

You will be surprised though how willing girls are to talk about these things. If they seem apprehensive, just throw them the bone by complimenting her. You arent there for no reason. Dont be shy! If they give you the 10-side, shove it back in their face. They'll tell you because your balls by that point are just god damn massive :)

If you do try it, let me know how you get on!

[–]harrington42421 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Title	How I built my Inner-Game
Author	5aint
Upvotes	26
Comments	5
Date	March 24, 2015 9:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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