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Nonconformity is more attractive than conformity for women and men

Akashin

March 30, 2015

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http://www.psmag.com/health-and-behavior/the-sex-appeal-of-nonconformitypeal_of_nonconformity_new_research/

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Title	Nonconformity is more attractive than conformity for women and men
Author	Akashin
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	March 30, 2015 7:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/30u5il/nonconformity_is_more_attractive_than_conformity/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/nonconformity-is-more-attractive-than-conformity.1386028 https://theredarchive.com/post/1386028

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[–]lazlounderhill 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Akashin 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]lazlounderhill 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

You said that people who don't conform with society's standards think too much on their own and thus have no control over your life?

I did?

An attraction to non-conformity is a feature of the lizard brain, not the opposite. Conformity is a choice, it's a resistance to ancient biological impulses that have not caught up to the environment in which we currently find ourselves. This is the source of many human problems - the ever present conflict between personal freedom and the desire for safety (i.e. self preservation). We want both, but we can't have both in equal measure. One always comes at the expense of the other - without exception, because human beings are inherently predisposed to self-interest.

Conformity is a decision to assert control over chaos, by minimizing choices/variables (to the extent at which it is possible to do) - in doing so, you are indeed giving up the freedom to choose from an infinite number of choices (and variables) - which is, in itself, is ironically a release of control - in an attempt to control those choices (and variables).

[–]Akashin 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link