Hey there fellers. I wanted to post a long overdue reflection on what is not constructive regards to getting ladies.

There is no amount of information that you read that will make you better with the women you want. Trying to learn tactics to present yourself in a way that a woman will be attracted to is actually counterproductive to getting better with women.

Here's why:

Attraction is formed at a subconscious level, as we alllll know. But what does this mean? I can tell you what it doesn't mean. It doesn't mean that by gaining an intellectual understanding of how people are attracted to each other, you yourself will then simply know how to be more attractive. All you are really achieving is an understanding of how to falsely present yourself in a way that a woman may or may not find attractive.

So what’s wrong with that?

Lets look at this from a girls perspective.

A young man approaches her with the craftiest opener she's ever heard. He appears to have confidence, he has great eye contact, his body language is calm and open. He's playful, he has a good sense of humor, and he's even attractive. This guy must be a winner in her eyes, no doubt. At a first she probably feels this way.

But as the conversation goes on, she starts to feel uneasy. She may not even know why, but at a subconscious level her mind is forming an opinion contradictory to the conscious interpretation that she formed. Her subconscious mind, the much more powerful mind that has been crafted and fine tuned over thousands upon thousands of years of evolution, is picking up on subtle clues that this person is not what they appear to be. She may not know why, but this person just isn't what she's looking for.

Does any of this sounds familiar?

I'm not saying you can't present yourself in such a way that a girl may be falsely attracted to you, and even sleep with you. This is especially true if she's drunk, has psychological issues, or perceives herself as EVEN LOWER value than you knowingly or unknowingly perceive yourself. If this is the type of seduction you are interested in than please read no further and keep doing what your doing. It would even be respectful if you could bring yourself to admit that this is all you want out of your journey in getting better with women...

Lets look at a different example:

A young strapping man approaches a woman. He seems a little awkward to her, but that's okay, he knows he's a little awkward and he even makes fun of himself for it. He isn't that attractive, but after a while it doesn't matter, his personality shines through after he settles in a bit. He also doesn't seem to be trying to get anything from her. He is actually invested in getting to know her as a person. This fella knows who he is, where he stands, and is presenting himself in the the truest and most GENUINLY attractive way possible IHMO. He's not perfect, but he knows how to handle himself.

After a while the girl decides that he is in fact a quality/genuine guy, but the fact is, he's just not as valuable to her as the other guys that are available to her. She gives him her number, but she doesn't plan on texting him back when he hits her up a few days later.

So what gives?

Now this guy is actually on track to getting quality girls, his only issue is he's reaching a bit out of his range. He can probably get that girl someday in the future, given that they do have some sort of natural chemistry (chemistry that is unalterable from birth), but the fact is, his subconscious mind has not yet been rewired to enable him to be the quality guy he knows he is.

So how does this average Joseph become the quality guy?

He spends years talking to new girls. He fails more times than he can count and his confidence waivers. He wants to give up, but he knows in order to be true to himself and live the best life possible, he has to keep going. Eventually, and usually at the right time when he is actually ready for it, he gets a good rhythm going and feels genuine confidence as a consequence of just not really caring that much anymore. This person has rewired his subconscious through direct experience. By feeling defeated and embarrassed countless times, he has slowly actualized and re-framed the subconscious doubts. These doubts that used to spontaneously arise, hindering him from properly expressing himself in his attractive and true form, have now been materialized, experienced, and effectively dismissed. His confidence is also propelled by having more experience talking to girls, which has increased his skill set during interaction. Talking to girls is just not that big of a deal now.

He also finds his life passion and puts that at the forefront of his efforts in life.

He also promises himself that he will grind through life without ever giving up and makes continuing effort to be a good person and express love at all times.

He also monitors his thoughts, acknowledging any negative feelings he has about himself, and then redirects his focus on positive and constructive thoughts.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Long story short accept yourself for who you really are at this point in time. Talk to more women over a long period of time as this person. Psychic changes will take place automatically and subconsciously over time and you will become the person you want to be. Why the FUCK is MY FACe SO ITCHY HOLY SHITTT.!!!1