I've had some problems in the past with being too serious when talking to girls and talking way too much about myself. On this particular night out I wanted to try being less serious and more light-hearted with the girls and also to deflect serious comments with light-hearted banter. Here are two sets that I found really instructive:

The first girl is a HB8 and, like I said, I wanted to treat this set with a real "fuck it" attitude and just have a laugh and some banter. I teased her playfully right out of the approach and our entire conversation I was just mucking around and joking whilst escalating physically. The important thing is that I deflected questions like "What do you do?" or "Where are you from?" away from the territory of a serious conversation which is something I've never done in the past. Anyway, she was absolutely loving it. It turns out that this girl had a boyfriend and whilst she still seemed keen for something to happen it left a slightly sour taste in my mouth and I ejected from the set a little while afterwards. In hindsight I probably should have stayed and gotten a number but I was so happy with the reaction that I wanted to get out and try some more sets with available girls.

Now, the second girl is a HB9.5 and I got some real approach anxiety in the lead up. Fortunately I was able to open but as I'm talking to this gorgeous girl my initial plan of just being fun and outcome independent kind've went out the window and I reverted back to my old ways. We ended up having a "serious" conversation which inevitably fizzled out in the middle of a loud bar. She seemed interested, and was clearly flattered at being approached but I would have had much more success if I'd gone with the first method of joking and dancing and just being fun.

I think there are two problems here: Firstly, I was in a loud bar and should have been matching the energy level of my surroundings. The first set got a much better reaction because I was being fun and light hearted which corresponded better with the surroundings. Secondly, I was too dependant on the outcome. I shouldn't be treating a HB9.5 differently because she's hotter.

On the plus side, I think treating the whole thing more light-heartedly and just having fun with the girl rather than launching into my life story worked a charm in the first set. Definitely going to try this again next weekend.