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[–]W_JamesD 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Short answer: "You're in your head to much ABOUT her. And not in your head enough about YOU."
Long Answer: The image you've built up about her in your head is breaking your confidence with approaching her. You weren't really clear as to your intentions towards her, but I assume you want a date or at least a phone number for further conversation.
Put aside her attractiveness for a moment and what she does or doesn't do in relation to you. Instead think about what YOU want with her. Once that's clear then just go for it.
You don't have to be anybody other than yourself. The self that is going after what he wants. You don't need to be overly direct, but sitting around thinking and hoping isn't getting you anywhere.
I don't know the entire situation, but I do know that any female that smiles and smirks when you talk to her is either being polite or is interested. How do you find out? Do something about it! You don't know which it is, so don't assume. Whether you strike out or get in a position to either get her number or go out on a simple date (like a cup of coffee or something), nothing is going to happen until you do something.
Remember, women seldom take responsibility for things. So as a man, it's your job to remove the responsibility of the approach from her.
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[–]W_JamesD 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link