Procrastinating in the last moment

placido12 · 2015-05-15T15:22:02+00:00

The only way to beat a willpower 'addicted to procrastination' is to exercise it whenever possible. You have to think of it as a muscle. Once you start doing one thing, it becomes easier and easier to do things after that. Clean your room, right now. I'm serious. I'll be here when you're done. Doesn't that feel good? The act of doing something more than procrastinating gives you confidence to do more.

It sounds like you do have approach anxiety, but once you get in the habit of doing something the absolute moment it pops into your head, it becomes easy. Use the five second rule: whenever you remind yourself of something you should be doing, count to five in your head. Once you reach 5, you have to do it. No exceptions. Once this rule becomes ingrained after many uses, it becomes easy.

There's a great article on what exactly procrastination is and how to beat, but I'm on mobile and can't link it right now. If you Google "procrastination monkey panic monster" it'll probably be the first thing to pop up. Read that whole thing, It'll really make you understand why you choose to not do things you should be doing.

Im extrapolating a lot from your short post, so if what I'm saying doesn't apply to you I hope it applies to someone who reads it, becoming a non-procrasinator is hard but it's just about bring able to start and finish at least one thing every single day, no matter what. From there, Confidence and your own willpower can take you the rest of the way.

Edit: here's that article I was talking about. Be sure to read both parts one and two

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

Iloveyou-Iknow · 2015-05-15T20:11:49+00:00

Confidence can be defined as : willingness to take on challenges that you haven't attempted before.

If you are a great guitarist and pick up a difficult sing to play; that's just assurance. You know you can play it.

How about standing up to a dragon , believing that you can s"-y it?

How about taking a test about topics you never learned before but you like he challenge?

How about jumping off a roof to the next, without having jumped that distance before?

You don't have confidence with women. Fear stops you. You find reasons to not approach. You even make up a different excuse each time.

Listen here, here is how it goes:

First you do the thing that you are afraid of. And then the fear goes away. Not the other way around.

You display confidence by saying "Hi" and smiling to a girl, simply opening: without knowing if she is attracted to your type, if she is single, if she is straight... You don't know if you can win: but you are or anyway and believe that you will win. Think of a team of teenagers going to the pitch against a pro team. That takes balls right? Balls = confidence.

Next time you feel bad and start hearing they voice of fear in your mind that says "next girl maybe"

STOP THINKING , WALK TO HER AND SAY HI WITHOUT HAVING A PLAN WHAT TO SAY NEXT

You just opened her and passed the first test. Your fear is DEFEATED for the moment, you will feel relief even if she ignores you or brushed you off. Fear is gone, you have solid proof that you are stronger than the fear. Next approach will go better because now you know that diving into water from that 30ft high towel didn't hurt or feel bad at all. You can do it again and again without hesitating.

Title	Procrastinating in the last moment
Author	Nikkanai
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	May 15, 2015 3:11 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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