Here is the deal:

I started like 8 months ago on the path of self-improvement. Before that time I was the unconfident, somewhat socially awkward, virgin that likes to stay in his room and play video games drum roll please... and in, of all majors; Computer Science.

Since then, I have put an incredible effort into myself and looking back, I hardly recognize myself in most aspects.

I have eliminated my V-card with an extremely attractive girl, begun talking to everybody instead of ignoring people in public, have an ongoing FWB, random gay guys hitting on me, and had several situations where I was incredibly close to closing girls that have boyfriends (but chose not to for reputation reasons, not escalation problems). I am improving at an incredible pace and I am constantly working on going out and doing things to increase social proof and value. In case you are wondering, height, looks and grooming are not a problem for me and I am actively working on increasing my physical fitness.

(For example, just this weekend, my entire schedule was filled with social activity ranging from going to a popular bar with friends and making new ones, a date, going to an event with several hundred people attending and having a barbecue with some friends and entirely new social circle.)

But there is one thing that is consistently holding me back way more than my ability to converse and escalate with women. The fact that when I meet somebody and they get around to asking what my major is and I have to respond.

Computer Science

I swear, in some situations, I literally witness people's smiles turn into frowns of disgust. As much as I can improve myself, I cannot change my passion and career path just for the sake of women. Stereotypes? I have heard them all, I witness them everyday because I work with the people that actually fulfill them, everything from total social isolation, horrid neckbeards, extreme day to day anime/MLP cosplay fans, complete disregard of any sort of social cues, inability to communicate or lead, swathes of virgins, inability to calibrate their technical language to people not in the faculty... (the list goes on)

Some things I hear on a day to day basis and the thoughts that I have about them.

  • "So you work in I.T.?" CS and IT are not the same

  • "Where's the computer guy here?" Couldn't even address me by name?

  • "Can you fix my [insert nebulous problem here]?" Really? If you pay me, yes, I don't do 'favors' anymore except for close friends and family

This isn't a limiting belief that my degree is something that prevents me from getting women and what I want. I'm trying to find ways to convey the fact in a way that will not work against me. So far, I have taken the route of not even mentioning it until way later. By creating enough proof that I am socially confident before I drop it works fairly well because I am able to make pretty good first impressions. When I finally tell them, the fact that I go counter to the usual stereotypes screws with their mind a bit and I can tell by their facial expressions.

The funny thing is, they come around later and tell me "But you are social!", "You are probably the one most likely to hold a life outside of games and computers.", "I just met you and we are already dancing in the kitchen!", "You must be the most outgoing Computer Science major." This response is happening more and more often.

You are damn right I am. ;)

So really my question is, what are some techniques that I can destroy the stereotypes that come along with this? Sure the cop out is just lie, sure who gives a shit, but it will come around and bite your ass and I rather own it and be genuine.

So far I have tested:

  • Having enough social proof from friends & girls where it doesn't matter - Works

  • Demonstrating social confidence and energy in a party vibe - Works very well to an extent, but I still get the look of disgust

  • Not mentioning it - Works perfect until I tell them, if I have the above, it doesn't impact me, but it does on the interaction if I don't in that particular situation

  • Attempting to paint it in a positive light - Extremely difficult to convince people, it is often shrugged off

  • Indirectly telling them I don't associate with the people that are incredibly stereotypical and explain the social divisions within the faculty - Works with guys, not with girls

  • Making jokes about it and self-deprecation - Works to an extent if the vibe of the conversation is good and I pull it off.

So any advice, constructive criticism or is appreciated to let me walk over this hurdle as if it was nothing. The more specific you can be the better.

Some of you may say: "Oh stop being a little insecure shit about it", sure whatever, that's why I asked for the advice. I rather fix it than throw it under the rug.

This isn't killing my game, it is just a minor thing that makes everything go less than perfectly smooth.