Guys of seddit - Have you ever been the "other man"? If so, has it ever worked out in your favor?

2015-06-04T00:02:36+00:00

Current gf of 4 mo was in a 3 year old relationship when we started talking. 10 years is a lot longer than 3 so my experience might not be the same as yours but if she's even thinking about it she must be falling out with the other guy. It's still gonna suck, obviously ending a 10 year relationship is gonna have some pretty serious emotional repercussions and you're going to get the ass end of all of it, but if you're really into her it's worth it. Just know it's going to be a huge mess for at least a couple months. Good luck dude, hope it all works out for you two.

2015-06-04T01:10:09+00:00

I know for a fact she has never cheated before

lol

but the question is, does it ever?

she cheated on him with you. she will cheat on you to get with the next guy with more value.

Best course of action is to just enjoy your time hooking up with her, or break it off if it doesn't fit your moral code.

2015-06-04T00:10:15+00:00

Don't put your faith in a woman's word, only her actions. Do not make any life changing decisions until after she's with you and has stayed with you for a while and you've assessed her to be worth your while.

I'd also probe a little more into why she's breaking up with her current SO. "Not feeling a connection" sounds all well and good on the surface but what does it really mean? It sounds like you're just giving her the tingles and she can't help herself. What's to stop the same thing happening to her when she's with you? There is someone out there that's wealthier, smarter and better looking than you.

FWIW I consider the "I met someone" route cheating. Essentially, instead of working things out and communicating you just keep ignoring it, leading them on in a way, till you find someone better. Instead of sharing your problems with your SO you went and got all intimate with a stranger. They might not even be aware that there' a problem.

Manage your expectations.

f3yleaf · 2015-06-04T09:01:24+00:00

Pulling girls off other guys is fun, but get over your oneitis. Her boyfriend should not be your concern unless you know/like him, or if the girl is truly something special and you want her for yourself.

PepperoniQuattro · 2015-06-04T12:20:05+00:00

I've been the other guy. She got close to another guy while in a relationship with me and we broke it off, she became his girlfriend just like she became mine after dumping her previous boyfriend. To me, it's not worth it. A pretty face and sweet words to stroke your ego can seriously mess with your rational thinking, I get that. But I consider someone who cheats on their partner of ten years weak of character and spineless. Not the type of person I'd like to call my girlfriend.

tamilgangster · 2015-06-04T12:52:33+00:00

Why wouldn't you want to be the other guy, all the pussy none of the drama

Title	Guys of seddit - Have you ever been the "other man"? If so, has it ever worked out in your favor?
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Date	June 3, 2015 11:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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