My goal for this post is twofold: 1) I want to offer a my unique style with women that is a little different that what I see in a lot of the posts on this subreddit, and 2) I want to gain insight on why it works for me or what the theory behind it is. If you guys have any insight I would really appreciate it.

A little background: I was always a natural with women. I think it has to do with being raised primarily by my mother and having an emotionally and physically abusive father. I learned to trust women more and naturally connect with them. This upbringing made me connect more with women than men. I don't do well in group settings and until college I had a terrible time connecting with men (it literally felt homosexual to connect with a male friend), but one on one with women I did very well. This is partly because I'm an above average looking guy (when I'm in shape, not currently right now because I've let myself go).

I've had many very beautiful women tell me I am handsome, charming, funny, intelligent, call me a player (which I later on tell you the perfect response) and every other compliment you would want a woman to give to you.

My style:

Distant yet vulnerable - I don't agree with everything a woman says just because she is pretty. I even at times piss a woman off. I think this is a huge advantage. If you want to differentiate yourself you need to disagree. Not to be a dick, but be unapologetically firm in your beliefs. Sometimes this will just piss a woman off. It happens, but usually those are the girls that are too stuck up to even consider another person's ideas.

I'm kinda a closed off person naturally. I have some trust issues. So I hold back. This goes along with not always agreeing with a woman. I don't differentiate between her less attractive friend and her when I interact socially. I'm always holding back. Sometimes its best to create that tension. Make her wonder why you aren't devoting all the attention to her.

What I do though is put myself physically next to her. I don't establish interest by socially interacting with her more so than others. I start out more slowly. I just stand next to her, act natural and hold off for a bit. I like to play a little longer game. I've had some success with being really direct and I definitely open up the group, but I usually open one of her friends, be really social and demonstrate value. I like to tease her a bit and get her imagination going.

This comes to the part about vulnerability. When I do strike up a conversation with her I usually spend a little time on the basics, where she works, ect. But I quickly enter into a deeper conversation. I might ask her what are her goals in the next five years. Here's an important point though. I'm not just interviewing her. I will usually add in that it really fascinates me to hear what people's goals are. I honestly let her know that I'm interested in other people. It's completely genuine because I would ask a guy the same question. The point is to go deep early on and to elaborate why you are going deep. This allows you to break social norms, i.e. going deep fast, while at the same time expressing who you are. I find that 9 times our of 10 its really hard to express your deep down values, but amazingly most people are all the same. She will usually have the same feelings and will love you for it. Just connect. Every guy on here is a deep enough person to go out and research how to better their love life. You're on average probably more educated, maybe have battled with social anxiety, depression, fear. All these things make you a deeper person and girls connect with deeper guys. On one extreme you can talk about something superficial like the weather, on the other extreme you can talk about the problems you had growing up with a bad father. It of course takes social awareness to talk about these problems. But if you can do it without seeking validation and you gauge whether she is deep enough to understand these problems it will work out for you. The point isn't to spill all you problems to a girl its to connect on a deeper level. It can be something simple such as common interests in music.

Overexagerated Confidence in a humerous manner: Once you've connected, it's time to get to the fun part. This is where I shine. I have always been a playful confident guy. I was definitely arrogant in highschool which for little immature teenagers works, but in college I did some hard thinking and changed. Initially I lost confidence. I realized I wasn't perfect, I wasn't the most handsome guy, I wasn't the smartest person on the planet, ect. But the thing I eventually learned was that with a playful attitude you can get away with saying almost anything and you still get the benefits of being perfect.

Here's where I think guys can get the most: first, its important that you keep in mind that you must have a legitimate connection going to do this. You can't just walk up to a girl on the street and jokingly say your the most handsome guy in the world and that you have to beat women off of you with a stick. Its just plain old weird. However, just the other day I deeply connected with a bartender and asked her what was the biggest problem in her life she gave me a serious answer that was actually really sad. She then asked me what mine was, so to break the tension: I sighed, got a really sad puppy dog look on my face and said "women are always objectifying me and using me as a sexual object". She laughed so hard it was amazing. This does two things. It highlights your humor and it puts the idea in her mind that women are after you. Now trust me. If you just straight out said you were a player she would roll her eye's and think your a loser. Humor makes even absurd statements seem real to a girl.

Another example: The same bartender said what's that smell? I quickly go "I don't know, if it smells like a handsome guy its probably me, otherwise its someone else". She laughed like crazy. Now I know it sounds cheesy, its just a matter of personality. I naturally have a cocky funny vibe and she knows I'm just playing. I'm not the best looking guy. I'm about 30 lb's overweight currently. But that makes it even funnier. I'm in a much better position giving all that than if I would have just sat there and said I don't know what that smell is. It's crazy but the things that are your biggest weaknesses when exaggerated in a positive light become your biggest strength.

Girl's love to laugh and honestly all you have to do is playfully exaggerate your qualities in a positive light. Its easy humor. I'm no comedian. I just grew up with a certain personality that was funny and resonates with women. But you can you the exact same sort of humor.

One time I had like an hour long conversation with a girl about my dick. I gave him a sexy name. Now she of course asked me how big he was. Truth be told: not the biggest little guy in the world. So I didn't lie. I said: "he's not the biggest guy on the block, but ladies sure do love him and he gives excellent mouth messages". Instant lay, and boy did he message her mouth!

It's crazy: I don't know why more guys don't do this. I'm not super alpha, not tall, but I can joke like a motherfucker about being a crazy badass and riding my harley on the weekends with my biker gang and all the tattoos that I have that she can't conveniently see unless of course clothes were off.

What I'm trying to get at is I don't see this played up on reddit so much. It's a great way to highlight your humor, you can totally overcome weaknesses, it's easy. Now you must always remember to mix it with an initial distance and independence, a deep connection and a playful attitude.

I hope this helps some of you. It's gotten me laid many times, I get called a player, charming, have had girls tell me I have a really intelligent face (weird comment but happened multiple times)

As promised I'll tell you how to respond to the player shit test and "We are not having sex". As far as the player thing goes, this usually happens when we are walking back to her place. She say something along the lines of "what are you some type of player?". I stop her in her tracks, grab her face between my palms, look her straight in the eye and with a serious tone say "I just really like women and thought you're really beautiful", then kiss her really passionately, put a big grin on your face, and grab her hand and take her home for pleasure time.

As far as the we are not having sex resistance: easy, just say you honestly don't care about sex and you just want to make out with her then kiss her. Now I know I may get some flack for this, but it really works. Its outcome independence. It makes a woman want to fuck you even more. It has worked literally 100% of the time for me. Trust me if she is taking you back to her place you have already won the battle don't be an idiot and be a totally AFC that argues when she doesn't want sex. I think it works for me because I honestly don't care. It's genuine. I'm not as horny as I was when I was 14. I like sex, but its a bonus. I just like meeting new girls and making out with them. Sex is good, but to be honest it's not the end of the world if I don't get laid. Girls love this.

All in all, I know this was a long post that I hope a lot of you got something from. Comment if you have any experience with this style or know why it's working. I've been on seddit for years off and on but I don't see this kinda stuff on here. But it works for me and its easy to implement so I think you guys should give it a try.

tl;dr: you can get away with the biggest flaws if you connect deeply and exaggerate yourself in a positive, playful way