I have had this problem for a while, and even though I've been tackling it (slowly) I'm struggling with advancing it. Most of the articles and pages I've read give me general advice on how I can improve my arsehole factor but I'm looking for specifics. What small things can I start doing that will get me more of what I want. I understand that I will dampen a couple of people, I've already caused bigger issues than taking people down a few notches. I also want to know how I can make the traits become habitual. I'm uncannily good at picking most things up but when it comes to social skills it takes me longer than normal. Anything will be helpful and if possible could they be listed so small things I can change are first and bigger ones later, so I and anyone else wanting help has some structure. Thanks!