I met this girl a few months ago through a friend of mine, they were sort of friends with benefits at the time. Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, she matches with me on tinder. She messages me and we both think it's hilarious we matched (neither one of us looks at the people we're swiping right on).

I knew she and my friend weren't talking anymore, so I figured fuck it and messaged her if she wanted to smoke, knowing she would. We were both busy for a few days but we finally were able to meet up last night. She came over, we smoked, then hung out on a playground and started talking. The whole time I was going way harder with kino than normal, giving her hugs, grabbing her waist, and putting my hand out for her to take and follow me while we walked. She kept touching my chest and abs when we were facing each other and talking, and when we sat down she draped her whole arm down my leg.

At this point I knew it was on, so I laid back on the slide and when she commented on me getting comfortable I told her to come join. She did and we cuddled for a few minutes before she said "I don't know if I can hook up with you..." Stating that she felt awkward since she had fucked my friend before. I said no worries, it's no big deal, which I intentionally left vague for her interpretation of whether I meant it's no big deal that they fucked or no big deal that we wouldn't hook up. I didn't push her, but when she said she wanted to fuck me cause I was hot I knew I just needed to push through the LMR.

I thought fuck it, sat up and she followed, then scooped her up by the legs immediately and dropped her on my lap, and in one smooth motion, without me even moving my face she just went in for the kiss. Simple as that, I just fucking made a bold move I usually never would have and she fucking loved it.

We made out and basically groped each other for a couple minutes before she again said she felt bad and also mentioned she was getting serious with another guy so she didn't want to cheat on him basically. I said no worries, I won't kiss you again (not really meaning it but whatever), and we just cuddled a little before she decided to leave. No sex, but whatever I actually didn't care that much...didn't wanna bang this chick on a public playground anyway haha.

Just wanted to share this because I was pretty happy realizing last night how effective kino can be for escalating which is my biggest sticking point, and just how little sense it has to make. I'm a super logical person so I never understand how to make excuses for kino, but I realized if a girl's into she'll be totally receptive to whatever you're doing regardless of it making sense for you to grab her hand, hug her, etc; and if she's not into you, you'll know it and won't waste your time. I'm becoming a lot less needy, going through just an "okay, on to the next one if this doesn't work" mindset, and it feels fucking great not being so desperate anymore. Thanks a lot guys, I fucking love this community.