This lesson was learnt from my experience with girls but also applies to life as well.

When you ever get doubts or feel down from doing something and it didnt lead to what you wanted remember this.

Everything we do has an effect. Sometimes that effect can be positive, sometimes negative.

The trick is not to try to avoid all bad effects as that is nigh on impossible. Rather, its what you do when met with a outcome that you did not want. The trick is how you approach it. Embrace it. Learn from it. Dont dwell on it. Make yourself better from something bad. Make yourself stronger. You'll also learn that the way you deal with the effect is more important than the action itself. Its more valuable. By learning from the mistakes you're smarter than if you never made the mistake at all. And when you do you'll hopefully start to want to take more action as any effect good or bad is great for you And you'll learn that the worse thing you can do is nothing at all.

You need to stop imaging some fantasy of what could have been where everything is perfect with this girl you just met. 1. You cant get that, so whats the point of torturing yourself. 2. You dont know that. Shit could have been horrible for all you know.