I'm taking a girl to a fraternity "social" in a couple of days and could use some tips!

hardly_incognito · 2015-11-09T07:25:15+00:00

A fun-fact before I begin: most people can't dance.

With that in mind, the biggest key to dancing is to lighten up and enjoy the music. Close your eyes, feel the beat, bop your head - try that tonight. Feel the energy it gives to you.

I'm not a good dancer, or least I've never thought I was, but oddly enough I've always enjoyed the idea of dancing. It's self-expression that can physically bring people together in an intimate way. I'd go to clubs, parties, etc... I'd dance, and I'd forget people were around. My first outing I remember being told I was a great dancer and asked if I danced. Why did that occur? I wasn't doing anything fancy, I merely ignored those around me and lived in the moment.

To summarize, go in with a clear mind. If you can't dance, you'll wind up being comedic and funny, making the girl laugh. Don't take yourself too seriously by over-thinking this. You must experience life and live for the moment. If you do manage to find your groove then the same outcome will occur, the girl will laugh and find herself enjoying the moment.

It's not about the dance itself, but the vibe you put off in the moment. Be yourself, be carefree, live for the moment and realize that all girls can get down and dirty. ;)

Cheers.

Nordyyyy · 2015-11-09T07:28:03+00:00

I'm also in a frat and don't like all the grinding generally I just grab there hands smile and spin them in some circles I also like to hit the whip and other stupid looking dance moves to make her laugh it. With your nerves Id say just remember your in a frat and your saving her by bringing her to a social like this as she's probably sick of the house pArties. This is sent from my phone so I'm sorry if the grammar or formatting sucks

recyclablebantha · 2015-11-09T12:26:05+00:00

I don't know how much you all know about these socials but essentially you pre-game at the fraternity house with drinking games and things of that nature, and then you take a bus to a venue (usually a club/bar) and everyone dances. Typically in a dirty fashion because everyone is hammered.

Here's my biggest problem. I can't dance. Like at all.

I had this worry. Used to be afraid of dance floors. So I took some dance classes. I was so excited that I'd be able to hold my own at least. And then I went dancing after learning to dance.

No one fucking knows how to dance. Like 95% of the people there are range from the level of Self-consciously Standing there with a Drink, to the level of Whirling Hazard to Everyone in the Immediate Area.

So you can't dance? Great. You're in good company. Like Hardly Incognito said, most can't.

Now that's not to say I haven't, when as a freshman it was easy to hook up with a girl by grinding with her on the dance floor.

And even in this alone, you're suddenly tons better than most people. Really.

But older girls don't really respond as well to that, and this girl definitely seems to have a bit more class. To add to that, I don't really enjoy grinding with girls on the dance floor that much anyways.

Two things here: It's not that "older girls don't respond well to grinding," it's that they don't respond well to guys they don't know, coming out of nowhere and attaching themselves to their asses. So what to do? Open them through eye contact and a smile first. Maybe something goofy like waving, depending on your personality.

Take dance classes. You don't have to become a choreographer. It doesn't take much. Just gain some knowledge and you'll see how fun it can be and how little everyone else knows. In the Land of People with Two Left Feet, the man who figures out which foot is which, is king.
Watch basic YouTube tutorials. There's one that's kind of helpful, about the hip-hop two step. Useful for any place that plays hip-hop, top 40, or any hip-hop laced dance music, of which there is a lot. Hip hop two step is easy. Spend some time on this video, and you have a base level to work from. Most people who dance, have some kind of idle (like a car idle): Their basic default when they aren't doing something fancy. Once you have your "idle," the rest is easy: copy funny things you see people doing out there on the floor.

2015-11-09T17:45:54+00:00

I haven't read the comments here, but just based on your title I want to relay something to you:

Read up on AMOGing and how to combat it. At any male-heavy college event it's incredibly likely that you'll be running into guys who may or may not have way better game than you, trying to steal your date out from under you.

If you don't have a solid understanding of how to combat this sort of thing, they can and will snag your date away from you.

Title	I'm taking a girl to a fraternity "social" in a couple of days and could use some tips!
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Date	November 9, 2015 5:24 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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