Hi I've been reading some of the red pill material, I find it interesting and at the same time I'm annoyed that I've probably gone from Alpha to Beta during my relationship.

I'm not entiely sure it it's the right place to post, but here we go:

I have a girlfriend who has a son from another relationship. I know that is a big issue with everyone in here ("DON'T RAISE ANOTHER MANS SEED" etc.), but we have always had a really good relationship, fun times, LOTS of sex in the first few years. Then we moved together, the sex got a little lowered, but almost sex every morning / evening (I lived with a 3 year old kid now after all, had to find time when he didn't need naps anymore). Then it became a little less, but still several times a week and then we planned to have a child together (Because I wanted to) the sex mostly stayed the same. Then she had maternity leave for 9 months with my daughter, while I worked. In the last few months before she started work she hated the apartment and didn't want to live there anymore. She just didn't like how there was no easy access to a garden and it would be perfect for the kids. This really affected her libido and she knows I have a high libido but she began to not feel like having sex.

We are moving to a new place soon, but the last three months have been hellish. She has had work since January and now she never feels like having sex, and we have been having fights such as "Do you only want me for sex?". Everyday when she comes home she says she's tired (which is understandable, so am I) and when it's evening and the kids are asleep she's NEVER in the mood. Right now, she might get in the mood every other weekend (when her son is at her dads place), but why should it only happen at that time? Although she's really tired she doesn't go to sleep earlier than normal unless I join her (which I don't, cause I'm not tired), instead she sits at the computer and watches reddit/imgur/facebook until there's nothing left to watch.

Pardon for the long story. Now, I've been reading a few of the articles here and if I should describe myself in the beginning of the relationship, I was really happy what I was doing, I enjoyed my hobbies and my University work and I enjoyed coming over to visit my girlfriend (or vice versa). That, I think, made her look at me like I had a higher status which probably turned her on(?).

Nowadays I mostly don't care about most things, "How should the livingroom look?" "What clothes should our daughter wear" etc. I think maybe I've given up and just let our life go by, not really deciding much. Atleast I don't feel like deciding anything, because I know I don't really give much shit about designing the livingroom before we actually live there (but that's important to her).

My question would probably be something like:

Have anyone tried such a situation before? Have any articles or tips that I could learn more about becoming what I once were? Sometimes my girlfriend have noted that "in the beginning" I was romantic, I always told her how much I liked her, what I liked about her etc. and that made her heart beat.

It's really frustating that she doesn't feel like having sex. It's really frustrating that she says things like: "But I need things like sweet messages on my phone or romantic things.. do things with me like going out etc." - we didn't go a lot out when we first met and we don't now.

Also I don't have a real dream to follow, I just like to live in the present - Is that a problem for her you think?

I'm probably just a sad old man in a bad routine already and I want to change that. How can I change?

Sorry in advance for any spelling errors, it's not my first language.