[Beginner] Infield of my shitty newby approach. Feel free to judge. Help is needed!

HotHamAndFrisco · 2016-01-06T20:35:01+00:00

Yo! not bad dude. I see that you walked her to class. Good work implementing that this time around. Your banter is also also good and you seeem to represent the buyer frame well. Im impressed, just a few subtle things ill point out.

1.) Don’t address any prior awkwardness and pretend like it never happened. If you do choose to address it playfully blame it on her.

2.) Assume familiarity on all approaches, but especially on re approach. Whenever, I run into girls I’ve met I always greet them with a smile and hug. This does a few things. 1.) It shows you are unaffected and this is just a normal interaction. 2.) it gets you instantly physical. 3.) It makes it look like you know each other more than you actually do. This is a weird dynamic that effects how people view your approach. It makes it look like you known her for a long time and from the outside and makes it seem more like two friends catching up rather than a pick up. Ill explain why this matters in point 5.

3.) Nervousness vs. disinterest. Both manifest themselves with similar body language. So it’s hard to tell which is which. I generally follow if the girl is silent and attentive then she is at least interested and preceded from there.

4.) You did a good job setting the pace of the interaction and blew through the small responses she was giving you. I understand it was a short interaction, but in future sets you are gong to want to tone this down once you gauge she is interested. Sit back relax and give her the change to add to the interaction.

5.) This part is probably the most important, because high school follows very interesting dynamics. Basically everyone knows everybody and word travels fast. For this reason I would hold off on being so direct. And focus more on just becoming a fun sociable guy with everybody. The reason being is that it is very easy to develop a reputation in high school and you don’t want to become the guy going around only hitting on girls. Unless you want that, in which case fucking rock it. Most people don’t however, and would benefit more just going the fun sociable route. If you do this properly getting girls should become much easier as a byproduct of social proof.

If this is your last semester I wouldn’t worry too much about this, and just go ahead and start honing the cold approach skill set anywhere you could.

If not, then I would save direct cold approach game for other times like parties, the mall, the beach, wherever it is you kids hangout these days. And focus just on building social relations in the school setting. Also not saying you cant cold apprach in school, just be strategic about it. you are gonnna have to walk this line for yourself to figure out the best balance. At the end of the day though people genereally have the memory of a housefly. So dont let this limit you

Good on you dude, you got some balls and by the fact you posted this clip I can tell you are serious about getting this stuff handled. I threw a lot of suggestions your way, try not to get overwhelmed and take it one step at a time. It’ll all workout eventually ;)

if you have any follow up questions feel free to ask

-Xenon- · 2016-01-06T05:08:54+00:00

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mada0207 · 2016-01-06T08:07:07+00:00

try not to say uhhmm....

throwaccount669 · 2016-01-06T08:58:19+00:00

ur mindset should be "who the fuck has the balls to do what u did " . great job on approaching :D

Title	[Beginner] Infield of my shitty newby approach. Feel free to judge. Help is needed!
Author	-Xenon-
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	January 6, 2016 4:38 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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