When I'm in a group setting, I can act like the king, alpha dog and everything. But I can't bring myself to flirt I think my problem is, especially in front of other people and friends. I feel like I'll look stupid or needy acting giddy in response to a girl or saying something romantic. Even one on one it's hard. Kino is very difficult, don't even mention kissing. I couldn't bring myself to ever kiss a girl on the first date at the end of the night. I'm generally a very level headed person. I can be funny and fun loving but you'll very rarely see me lash out in anger or punch something out of frustration. If someone gives me shit, I won't be your bitch, but I'll ignore you and internalize my frustration and if it comes to that level, violence can happen. I see it in a logical way "This guy hasn't stopped after repeated warnings, I'm going to now shove him." This is also a curse as you can already tell obviously. Especially around people I don't know well. If I don't know you well, I might not say 2 words to you. I feel like I'm afraid to get intimate and to show a girl I have interest in her. I can't flirt, not subtly. I know all the moves and when to kiss her and can hold amazing conversations about fun topics...but I can't bring myself to say something like "Wow, you look amazing in that dress." If I'm panicking I'll just freeze up and do nothing rather than go psychotic like others. This happened a few weeks ago on a date where I couldn't bring myself to hold this girls hand. How can I work on this?