Hey guys,

Thanks for checking out my thread.

I am what could be considered an intermediate level gamer.. and I am really, really frustrated by this - but at the same time, lazy and basically complacent with the level of game that I have now.

I don't suffer from approach anxiety, or run out of things to say. I spark attraction easily and most girls that I talk to like me. This is a really good feeling obviously, having come from a place of intense scarcity and feeling of unworthiness of having hot girls liking me for me.

I'd like to use this thread as an epic FR of every 'Failed' set to see patterns and shortcomings in my game, as well as to reflect on what I've done really well in the past six months.

It has been about a year since I posted a field report.. so this is going to be kinda lengthy.. I apologize for that. I'll try to include as much pertinent information as possible, but I certainly can't remember every little detail..

These are only reports where I feel there was a genuine vibe of 'Let's go fuck', but I didn't escalate.

Read as much or as little as you want. These are girls I met randomly on cold approach, failed pulls on day2s, as well as girls I've known for awhile. This is really painful to write.

The field reports.

1 English girl, (7.5) I met on the street at about 3am.

This girl asked me for a lighter as I just came out of an internet cafe late at night. We stood and chatted for maybe ten to fifteen minutes. She was just coming down from MDMA so she was obviously in a party mood. On some level this clicked with me that she was probably feeling adventurous, but aside from some light flirting and banter nothing really happened in this set. However, when we were both finishing up our smokes she tells me lives literally around the corner from where we were standing.. and kind of gives me this look.. I didn't take any action because I didn't know what to do, and I was afraid. I walk away and nothing eventuates

2 random girl on public transport.. (7)

I approach this girl at the bus stop and we start talking and flirting. She tells me she had just come back from a party with some close friends and she's a little tipsy. We talk some more and board the same tram, she starts giving me some very overt IOIs and is all over me with her verbal game. At one point she even said 'Do you live alone?' Again, I froze. My mind wasn't able to piece this together and come up with an excuse to get off at my station. I remember saying something weird and she gave me an equally strange reaction like: 'Wtf? Really?' Then I agonized about it for about thirty minutes after I stepped off. Again, no number.. no close.

3 older girl (cougar?) on street (6?)

I don't remember much from this set.. apart from I opened her indirectly asking for something lame like directions to a bar. We talk for maybe twenty minutes.. she's very open to my game. Throughout the set she keeps telling me.. 'I live in x neighborhood. I live in x neighborhood. I live in x neighborhood.' This place is pretty far away from where we were.. perhaps thirty minutes.. plus I didn't really really want to lay her, but I know I should have done it anyway. Again, I walk away, partially out of disinterest.. but mostly from not knowing wtf to do.

4 girl from Internet cafe #1 (7.5)

This is a girl I put a lot of investment into.. we talked for maybe two weeks spanning several hours.. I really liked her. :( She was very attracted to me as well which made this suck bad. On our date we didn't really do anything (a hallmark of my day2s), but she suggested we 'Go to a park near my place'.. and again.. the gaming gears in my head fucking stopped turning. I wanted to fuck this girl really bad, but my logistics were fucked at my place because i was still living with my ex-girlfriend and her omother.. so my place was absolutely not going to work. They were home, probably eating dinner at this point. But at least this time I tried; I asked: 'Do you have any food at your place?' Then she gives me the most feeble 'No', ever.. she didn't even really say no.. she just kind of shook her head.. at that point I took it as a sign of defeat.. then never saw her again. No more returning my calls or messages.. in fact when I did see her in person I got reactions which ranged from indifference to outright hostility. Before she left the country I saw her hooking up with another guy.. which really hurt. (<--- this is a recurring theme in this report. Beware)

5 girl from internet cafe #2 (7.5)

This is another chick which worked at the same place. #1 and #2 aren't friends nor do they really know each other. This girl I kind of ignored because I knew she had boyfriend and I thought was too much potential bullshit later on. One day she starts paying me A LOT of attention and again for about a week we had periods of intense flirting. At the same tlime she keeps reminding me that she has a boyfriend, over and over.. but that didn't stop her. If anything it seemed to make it more exciting. She'd stare at me deep in the eyes while holding his hand, always sit next to me, always come over and ask me stupid questions about the games I'm playing when we weren't playing them together. I had a bit of a crush on her near the end of this.

One day in the in-game chat she sends me a message.. which I later googled.. '10 69' which apparently means casual sex in Chinese.. so now we both know what's up.

We agree to meet at a mall, we walk around and buy food and sit down together.. then she says something to the effect of 'If people want to do something.. then they should just go ahead and do it.' She also told me in a apologetic tone that she lives with her boyfriend. After we ate and when she realized that I wasn't going to escalate she got bored and met up with her friend. Afterwards she grew more and more distant as time went on. Fuck.

6 really cute korean girl (8)

This one still hurts. I really, really liked this girl.. we had so much chemistry and the attraction was so crazy. I met her at a bar with my wing.. I gamed her, she loved me. I went on another date with her.. still loved me. This time I was playing to win.. at least at the beginning. She tells me I'm a player, a bad boy.. that she LIKES bad boys. She told me she fucked ten other guys.. so the sexual frame is set from the start.. But slowly.. I start to imagine us being together before sex.. because honestly it's rare that I find a girl who I genuinely like.. and my behavior becomes needy she's still attracted, we make out a lot, flirt a lot.. but she says to me: 'When I first met you, I thought you were a player. But now.. not so much?' At that point, I knew the set was fucked.

One day before she leaves to go back to Korea for three months she invites me up to her apartment. Keep in mind at this point we had been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend.. not like a guy who was about to fuck her brains out. It was honestly the weirdest thing I've seen in terms of pulling a girl back. She leads me to her apartment, she had lied earlier about having roommates.. so I actually take this as a green flag. She makes me wait outside for about 10 minutes while she cleans her apartment.. okay.. no big deal. I enter the room and she leads me basically directly to her bedroom. Except there's no blankets or sheets on her bed.. just the mattress.. and some pillows. And oddly there's a fucking clock pointing towards the bed on the floor, in the most awkward position possible. She's VERY reluctant to go thru any kind of escalation, she's hugging the pilow, interrupting the kissing with stupid babble, I try more dominance, less dominance, freeze outs.. for about an hour until I hear 'Oh, look at the time!' And she fucking points to the stupid clock. We talk for a little more and tells me she will keep in contact while she's in korea. I never get a message back from her. Also, while talking about sex she tells me she had only slept with three guys.. instead of ten when she thought I was just going to fuck her and then she could go back to korea.. she also said she was curious about one night stands..

This still stings because it was my impatience/neediness which fucked this up. I have too much of a sweet soul or something.

I was going to post more reports but honestly it's like telling retelling the same unfunny punchline over and over.

Here's my interpretation of everything.. and I'd like to hear your ideas about this as well.

I try to make every girl into my girlfriend before we have sex. I'm not proactive enough in escalating, logistics and pulling the girl. I don't set the sexual frame.. even when it's CLEAR AS DAY that the girl wants to fuck. Deep down, it's obvious I'm really not this player guy I'm projecting, which is cool. If I'm being honest I DO want a girlfriend, but there's some neediness/impatience which is preventing that from ever happening if I keep gaming like this.

My sets run out of momentum because I often stop escalating and it goes from neutral to negative and girls decide to disappear and stop responding. The window opens once and if you don't take the risk to make something happen, the window shuts itself forever and you get NOTHING. Girls won't even want to hang out with you.. it's vicious.. even if you had the most amazing chemistry and attraction.. it's almost asif those emotions were counterfeit because you're not horny enough.. if you were just a scumbag that wanted pussy then those sweethearts would be telling you they loved you while sucking your dick.. I sound bitter, and really, I am a little. I've been on both sides of the fence with regards to how women treat you, and I've seen pretty much everything at this point. I know that ALL of these girls went and fucked some other guy, and I AM butthurt about this. Espcially the ones where I felt a genuine connection with.. I guess girls emotions work differently.

The overarching lesson I guess is to keep playing the game until you win. Don't give up or stop at anything until you fuck her, and keep gaming her even after you fuck her.. and let HER make the first move towards commitment. Keep your polarity as a man and give her the hot player experience a lot of girls truly want deep down. This stuff is really painful and I've had enough :-(

EDIT:

I also want to share a.. counter report to redeem some of the pathetic behavior I showed in the above.. it's more to demonstrate how to actually game and get laid.. and what happens when you play to WIN.

I met a very cute girl at a bar when I was out solo.. sarged her friends.. they all love me.. they tell me the hot one is single and they ALL approve. They wanted me to go home with her the same night but she was reluctant. I get her number and meet up with her on a day2.

I met her at a park close to hers.. joke, build comfort, joke, escalate, joke, escalate, joke, escalate, escalate, escalate. Bounce her to another park for 10 minutes. We make out, I pick her up so her legs are on my lap. 'Come with me', I say. 'Where?' 'My place!' 'Really?' 'Yes. 5 Minutes. Let's GO!'

This happened shortly after the Korean girl left.. and I was so jaded from all the bullshit and lost opportunity I subjected myself to. In less than ten minutes we were having sex in my room.

The above would have played out very differently if I didn't push for it. I am so sick of feeling frustrated and having feelings which aren't returned in the same way as I'd like. You need to earn those through fucking her nice and good about five times before she's going to allow her to reciprocate them. Could be worse?