hi, so i went through a journey to change myself, inner and outer, and i believe i ve come a long way..

not only do i do better around/with girls, i think i m more confident with myself and my thoughts and feelings etc...

however alot of times i do get the respond from woman that i m beeing tooo "aggressive, playful, assholelike", etc...

instead of writing a wall of text i ll just post some short summarise and sorry for my bad english! as its not my first language

0) i dont know why girls think i m a badguy/asshole, i never insult them, talk to them openly telling them my opinion abt what i like/dislike, approve/disaprove, talking with a strong confident voice (but also a little bit too fast some times). having strong eyecontact. is making playful comments/teases bad? e.g. girl was showing me some moves and had to hopen her legs slightly, then i told her if she could repeat that and smirked, we (me and a friend) met a group of girls we ve seen from college, my friend asked that we could need their notes and i told them "to be honest we just wanted your numbers" and smirked.. i n general i m more of a high energy guy.. like sasha daygames..

1) i think i m missing on the numbers game, i only get to know girls i meet through friends or who i ve seen before in college (a really small one), recently i ve just get to know 5 girls (who are more or less a group of friends so you just can advance on 1 anyways)

2) one girl i really find attractive and like her character, but she s got a bf, still we text alot, she even called me a womenizer (i m not lol). last time we went out, i kinoed her alot, even grabbed her ass, but i hold myself back from going further since i dont wanna ruin her relashionship, but god was it hard to not lean forward and kiss her, i was so horny when i touched her legs lol... anyways i m just confused, they way we text she seems really into me, and didnt mind me touching her... she knows i m into her.. she s making me compliments etc.. O.o. but then again she told me she s going to move in with her bf, they ve been together for 5 years (prolly her first bf) she is in her early 20s. maybe she just wants to be desired by someone.. idk

3) another girl, first day we met, talked, drank, then went to a club, sat on a couch in the club, i went for a kiss, all good, then suddenly she stopped all attempt by me saying she thinks i think that she is dumb and too easy, etc... even telling me that she thinks i m an asshole

4) generally i m honest as much as possible, i do tell them that i m the biggest nerd on this planet, i love playing computer games,etc.. and ppl keep telling me i do not look like a nerd, which is a great compliment i guess :D

5) do you have days or moments where it is just "not going"? i went to a bday party of a friend and god did she have hot friends.. anyways, the problem was i didnt know any of them, but they all knew each other, problem nr2 was music was super loud (it was in a bar), so i couldnt get much into talking (i m a little deaf). n3 alot of the girls were there with their bf, so it was a little awkward... i was talking to the guys and all was normal, they seemed nice, then i tried talking to a girl and idk, normally when talking to a girl, its really easy for me to get them to laugh, but this time it was just not happening.... is it sometimes all about the environment you are in?

6) i believe my weakness are clubgames, i m a short guy and i dont like dancing, however i believe i can be very charming and talking is my strength, so maybe i should focus more on daygames.... but my biggest problem is the approach axiety, i feel like i need a reason to approach a girl, e.g. when she smiles at me (i really liked your smile ..), when we ve met before for example in class (hey you are from my class right, i am...), through friends (i m ...nice to meet you.. ) or even just asking for the time....

i d really appreciate your analysis or input, as i m thankful for all kind of advice,

thanks =)