Self worth vs. Success with woman. This impacts me too much...

2016-03-24T11:44:08+00:00

1. You're basing your validation on whether women talk to you.

2. Happens to plenty of us.

3. By talking to more women. Don't give your attention and time to women who decide to cut you off like that. You'll find that a lot of women will lose interest or flake on you. It's to be expected. Accept that fact and you'll find it easier to let it go and move on. Keep trying until you find one who's interested in you, while working on your inner game.

One way I get over a situation like yours is to have a hobby. My hobby is hiking and I'm passionate about it. My female friends tell me that they find a man attractive if he is passionate about something other than himself. I hope this helps.

Not2original · 2016-03-24T12:31:55+00:00

You may also be trying to 'sell' yourself to women when you should be 'screening' them to meet your standards.

Selling: I have this to offer to her.

Screening: What does she have to offer me?

2016-03-24T18:22:04+00:00

Like others have said, I think you are putting too much value into these women that have rejected you. You cannot let women determine your feelings as a man, even though it's hard not to. You have to just man up, tell yourself, "Well, what can I learn from this scenario?" and get back out there. Women will like you better for it as well. When I go out to parties, I don't give the slightest fuck if I don't talk to any girls, I just go because I want to go and be there to drink and hang with friends. This doesn't mean I don't talk to girls there, I'm just saying that if for some reason every girl there told me to go to hell, I wouldn't let that affect me, because I know deep down I'm a great fucking guy and I shouldn't let other's opinions about me get me down.

I know it's a very cliche thing to say, but really, it all comes back to confidence in yourself and not letting anybody get to you.

DirkDieGurke · 2016-03-24T16:22:21+00:00

I wasn't there, I don't know how you got to talking with them, but did you establish any attraction with them, or did you just cold approach? If it was pure cold approach, it's a numbers game, and you can't let 2 rejections bum you out like this.

Gagchet · 2016-03-24T17:08:15+00:00

I have a hard time with rejections as well. I think the idea of getting used to rejections is empty advice since rejections do have negative impact on your social skills. It's best to say or do things to avoid rejections. You can still have good social skills and while trying to avoid potential rejections. The fewer rejections you get the better your self-worth and then you get better women.

Title	Self worth vs. Success with woman. This impacts me too much...
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Date	March 24, 2016 11:08 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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