Wife and I have an okay marriage, im sure she loves me but she only has sex with me once a week or so if i initiate , never her doing it just me

We argued a lot for years on this

Eventually i cheated, new girl is sexy, hot love it, Feel bad for my wife but thats life i guess

Problem, getting attached to new girl, new girl flirts with a lot of guys is might be fucking them as well.

Im starting to feel super beta worried about who she sees and where she goes, i feel jealous.

I want to keep fucking her, but the jealousy is eating me up and the guilt.

What should i do? divorce is not an option, i dont want a relationship with the new girl but i also know i cant stop her from fucking around.

I need to maintain frame, need help thanks

What do i do when she is off with other guys? how do i get over these feelings?