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Fixed Mindsets vs. Growth Mindsets

TheSocialWrite

May 31, 2016

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Title	Fixed Mindsets vs. Growth Mindsets
Author	TheSocialWrite
Upvotes	14
Comments	4
Date	May 31, 2016 4:06 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4lvyrg/fixed_mindsets_vs_growth_mindsets/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/fixed-mindsets-vs-growth-mindsets.1407530 https://theredarchive.com/post/1407530

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[–]Aeon199 -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Nice post.

I'm trying to get out of a Fixed Mindset but every time when I try to be optimistic and believe in the Growth Mindset indefinitely, it always crashes back down very quickly.

I just think since I'm in my 30s, I'm a little autistic and have ADD, I'm not a bright guy, etc, then there are not going to be any women interested.. so why would I approach? Obviously they expect men to have leadership ability at my age and have a stable career, which I don't have and probably cannot have.

I have a lot of limitations in life--my gifts are few and far between.

I suppose an optimistic mindset would focus on Growth. But what if I could only "grow" things such as fitness/physique, fashion sense, basic 1-1 social skills, hobbies, etc.. and yet accept that things like group socializing, status, career prospects are not going to improve?

[–]TheSocialWrite[S] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I certainly wouldn't think that Aeon. The fact of the matter is that I know of two amazing dudes that both are a little Autistic. One I know only by reputation, he goes by Tyler Durden and is one of the most successful men on the planet when it comes to Seduction. He runs Real Social Dynamics.

The other I know personally, his name is Zakery Winchester and much like yourself he struggles with it. But at the same time he's able to accomplish great things. It's far too easy to look at some of the aspects of our personality and call things impossible. I believe that when it comes to self improvement, things build on each other.

For instance when you work on 1-1 social skills, your fashion sense starts to improve as people remark on certain things you wear. If you start working out and getting more in shape you'll find yourself more confident and as a result your social skills will improve a bit. Approaching, Social Skills (whether 1-1 or in a group), hobbies, everything can be improved upon. Personally I've never considered myself super bright but I think of it as I'm improving my intelligence. I used to be completely awful when it came to speaking with people but I changed my mindset to I'm Improving my ability to do so. I just started working out (I'm about 125 pounds sopping wet) and I'm improving my fitness. I have intense ADHD (medically diagnosed when I was in 2nd grade and it hasn't really gotten too much better).

All i'm saying here is that any limitations can be worked on and while they may never fully be improved upon, improving on yourself forces you into the thought process of thinking creatively and critically to help you rework the way you go about things and help you in different ways.

If you like, I'd be happy to exchange information (Like Skype or something) and we can talk about this more extensively Aeon.

[–]Aeon199 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]TheSocialWrite[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link