Met this girl a little under a month ago, finally was able to set up a meeting with her (she came over to my place), I cooked dinner and we had sex (it was very good for her, based on her subsequent responses).

Now she wants me to come out to a club in her area (she lives about an hour away) for her girlfriend's birthday party. I do actually like the scene and the music- I told her that it sounded fun and that I'd let her know, to which she sent a message trying further to convince me to go. After thinking this through, I think it's highly unlikely that I'd fuck her after this- her friends will be present, she lives at home, and she has to get up early in the morning. Setting an expectation that every (or damn near close) time we hang out we'll fuck is important for the long-term dynamic, I think.

My mind is made up on not going , but I'm wondering what the best way to bow out is without it seeming like I'm disinterested (I'd like to convert her to a plate and believe I have a good chance of doing so).

To my "sounds fun" she responded: " "Could be fun"- you are going with me... a good time is synonymous"

Going to let her stew overnight, but wanted to get some advice from dudes far more experienced than I in this department.