I feel so unworthy to even ask out girls because of my small penis. Any guys with a smaller penis than avg (5 inches) have any success stories to give me hope? I honestly just don't believe it's possible to have successful sexual relationships with women with this problem

pjr032 · 2016-07-15T05:14:43+00:00

"You can have great oral skills or fingering skills"

Except that it does help. If you get a woman off before you're inside her, most women won't be overly concerned about your size. You might not want to hear it dude, but sex isn't always about dick in pussy.

Flaydowsk · 2016-07-15T06:26:07+00:00

Hey man. I am a psycholgy major and some years ago I got to bestof because of what i said to a guy in a similar situation. If you wanna check it out, here it is

But in the brief version, I'll give my 2 cents.

"you can do great oral or fingering is bullshit. don't say that". Fine, duly noted. You're wrong, but let's concede to see other angles.

First of all... chill the fuck out.
I get it. I don't know your age or where are you from or anything, and we all know that a dick is a really valuable part of our identities. It shouldn't, but it is. But to wish to die or to change your life just because of a couple inches of meat? Then your dick isn't the one ruining your life, it's you.
That's a harsh thing to say but honest to god, take a deep breath and see things in perspective. I bet many people would take your 4 inches instead of the diseases or poverty they live with.
Repeat with me: It's just a dick. I'm worth more than my dick

But that's not important. You don't want to hear about other people's problems, you want help with your own, and that's what we're here to do. I just said that so you can think with a cool head.

Let's get the points:

I have a 4 inch, skinny dick.
I have 0 confidence and wish i were anyone else.
girls are going to laugh or humilliate me.
today's dating world is very competitive.
girls are having sex with many guys and demand more.
I don't know if I want to try.
I can't please a woman.

Let's go one by one:
I have a 4 inch, skinny dick
This is a fact. Nobody has it perfect. This is the hand you're dealt, so let's deal with it.
You don't like it? nothing will fix how you feel about it? then plastic surgery. End of the problem of the 4 inches.

I have 0 confidence and wish i were anyone else
This one is all on you.
You have chosen to make your dick such a huge deal you would change everything just for it, and have no confidence because of it.
But there are guys out there with 0 confidence too and a normal or even huge dicks. So dick=confidence is bullshit.
Armstrong has only 1 ball and you don't see him feeling emasculated. Your manliness doesn't come from your dick. A big dick won't make you confident.
Confidence doesn't mean to have no shortcomings; it's to accept them and live with them. You have never seen how many ugly, fat or dumb dudes have hot girlfriends? Because they DO have confidence.
Imagine being able to be in a conversation where some asshole is saying to you: "dude, what the hell are you doing with that model?! you have a minidick" and you being able to answer to him "yeah, and still I make her cum better than you ever could... not that she would ever let you try".
That's confidence, and a couple inches won't give you that.

girls are going to laugh or humilliate me.
That's a supposition.
Let's all be honest. It can happen. It will happen. People are assholes, and anything less than perfection is mocked. We have full forums and TV shows of people judging beautiful people like they were the most horrible people on earth.
But unless you're in highschool, you can act like a mature person. First of all, you gotta be upfront with it. If you tell your partner beforehand, at least you can get the pressure of impressing her in the moment of truth. I would've given you the same advice if you were a premature ejaculator or had any kind of disfunction.

today's dating world is very competitive
True.
But unless dating in my country and yours are very different, you don't whip out your dick, put it in a table, and then get a date.
You first need to be interesting, charismatic, funny, sexy, muscular or anything!
If there is a morbidly obese dude with a schoolgirl fetish with a 12 inch dick, believe me, he isn't gonna be able to use it on a woman so easily. So having ANY kind of dick doesn't matter at that point.
First be able to GET a woman, then worry about what you will do with her.

girls are having sex with many guys and demand more
Your opinion.
Yes, women can be more open about their sexuality than they were before. But they didn't became sluts; some girls have lots of partners, some not. Let's not make it like you're living in a eternal spring break.
And people aren't freaking sex gourmets. The beauty of sex is that it's like pizza; even the worst kind is pretty good. The physical aspect of a relationship is important, but it's not everything.
Or you think that every married and happy woman would leave their husband for the first kamasutra-expert big-dick guy they meet?
If you do, you've seen too much porn and/or have not experienced or seen an honest-to-god loving relationship.

And who the hell told you that "BIGGER IS BETTER"?
Big dicks hurt, you know? most girls are scared of them. And even the guys don't get to enjoy sex that much because they have to be very careful to not hurt their partner.
Girls don't "demand better". The same as guys, they can accept different kinds of sex, better or worse, depending on their feelings towards the person attached to the dick.
I don't know about you, but people in my country don't always end up marrying the hottest-sexiest girl they ever dated... they end up with the one they love, even if she isn't as hot or sensual or an animal in bed.
SEX ISN'T EVERYTHING. Is like 35%.

I don't know if I want to try.
I can't please a woman THIS IS IT.

You're already dismissing the ideas of oral and fingering and, by your words, it seems like you have never even friggin tried it.
And the same could be said about your stances on relationships with women.
Sorry for the bluntness man, but admit it.
You're scared to try. And you don't even know if you're good at it.
"I can't please a woman"... YOU HAVEN'T EVEN TRIED TO!
Say that when you try and fail.
I don't know if you know, but most women don't cum from regular vaginal penetration. So even with a "normal" dick, you wouldn't "pleasure" her. You need to know fingering, oral, foreplay, goddamn sex talk... ALL OF THAT IS SEX!
If sex was just penis + vagina, dildos would've outclassed guys years ago. You have two hands and a mouth, not just a dick.

Let's fix your statement: "I don't THINK I could pleasure a woman because I THINK that I can only bring pleasure with a dick. Because of that, I don't want to try"

So let's do a brief TL; DR:

I have a 4 inch, skinny dick. Yes. That's true.
I have 0 confidence and wish i were anyone else. ...because you put so much worth on dicks you apparently think you're nothing without a couple inches of meat.
girls are going to laugh or humilliate me. Very probably, yes. Moreso if you date bitches. But if you are mature and talk about this issue with your partner, you can come to an acceptance. Premature people can, so can you.
today's dating world is very competitive. Yes, but you don't put out your dick to get a date. Your dick isn't a presentation card, so this isn't relevant.
girls are having sex with many guys and demand more. Women aren't sex junkies that can only go better and better. And bigger doesn't mean better. A woman cares more about the person attached to the dick than the dick.
I don't know if I want to try. You're scared to try.
I can't please a woman. You have never tried and already know exactly how terrible all will be... just because of a dick; like girls don't want foreplay, fingering or oral. Apparently, women can only feel pleasure by penis+vagina.

All together, it seems a little... over the top, don't you think?

I'm not saying is not a problem. It is. It sucks. But even the average size of a dick isn't a human constant. Africans, asians, europeans... you can seem huge next to some and small next to others.
So your dick isn't small; it's small compared to _________.
And you let a goddam piece of meat rule your whole life. The only time that's acceptable is when we talk about a tumor.

People with bigger dicks than you can be horrible humans and die virgins. People with smaller dicks will have more sex than you and me together in our lifetimes.
Dick doesn't equal sex.

I have no idea about your age, or ethinicity or anything. If I did, I would understand you a little better. I'm sorry about that.

But these are the facts as you stated them and as I see them.

I hope something here helps.

mancozbi · 2016-07-15T05:20:50+00:00

Please don't give me that bullshit - "You can have great oral skills or fingering skills". It doesn't help.

In the bedroom once you've got her naked and horny various skills are going to be useful. It's not bullshit. On the way to the bedroom she won't know and wouldn't care how big your shmeckle is. It's your confidence, your sexy personality, smile, smell, social value that's going to get her to the bedroom. Do not walk around with a sign on your forehead (Tinder profile) that's says "I suffer from penis anxiety", this will not help you get any woman's knickers down to her ankles.

Manny-Kid · 2016-07-15T04:54:29+00:00

If you tell girls that it's 6" long they'll believe you. Girls are fuckin stupid when it comes to this.

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