Having trouble getting over my ex. I could really use a pep talk or something

AndroWanda · 2016-07-21T00:54:30+00:00

Time heals all wounds.

LoveMilaJo · 2016-07-22T13:49:08+00:00

Ok. First off. You felt bad when she treated you like shit. But now you want her back. There are 2 reasons for this(imo):
1. your ego
2. you miss the safety of beeing in a relationship with some1 you know/fear of a new chapter in your life.
Here is my take on this from my experience after a painful breakup with my ex, who btw, cheated on me. She was the best, we did alot of things together but the last part of our relationship everything was falling apart. After i found out, i was destroyed. I broke up with her, and had 0 confidence and valued myself VERY low. But i wanted to work it out with her, we takled often, Bla bla classic things.
Now months later, I came to a realization. The first couple of months after i found out, i wanted to work it out, no matter the cost. Because i was afraid that everything will go to waste what we had. All these years, reduced to nothing. I was afraid to accept that we simply failed.
Let it sink in. Our relationship just didnt work out. It just failed. I made peace with it. I still love her, and so does she. But its a different kind of love now.

I think back at what we had, and i just appreciate that we had these adventures together. We grew up, we changed, things changed. But all that i learned in this relationship, even if it wrecked me, gave me invaluable experience. Experience, which if i had never been with her, or never broke up with her, and just stayed in a broken relationship because we were too thick-headed to understand that we simply dont work, would have never become usefull. This experience that i talk off, came after i made peace with the breakup. I reflected on my behavior, on hers. I looked back without the pink-glasses and could learn alot. I became more mature. And now with seddit, i have tons of new experience that i build up through experimenting with new hobbies, new people, new situations.
If i can do this, so do you. Just learn to appreciate what you had/have in life, learn from it, and let it go.
Ps: i dont treat game as a way to slay, but as a way to build the best version of myself. I hit rock-bottom once or twice in my life. But that wont stop me to reach for the top. And the top is me. MY best version of myself. And everytime i hit rock-bottom, that rock-bottom will never be as low as the last one was. Why? because i already experienced so many defeats, that a new low will phase me even less next time. That is MY definition of self-improvement. To reach a state of total peace with myself, no matter what circumstances i meet in life.

MikeHaines · 2016-07-21T13:24:42+00:00

Cut her out of your life completely for at least 1 month.
Write her number on a piece of paper, hide it somewhere, then delete it from your phone. Defriend her on social media. If she asks why, don't be mean about it. Just say, "Hey, I still want to be friends but for the time being I don't want to be focused on what we had together, because I'm trying to open myself up to someone new." Be polite, yet slightly cold and indifferent.
Now work on yourself. You feel pain, correct? Use that pain as a FUEL. You now have greater EMOTIONAL LEVERAGE than almost anyone else here -- you have a FIRE inside. If uncontrolled fire can burn your house down. But when it's properly harnessed and channelled, it can light your house, it can be useful. So use it.
Use the pain. Let it motivate you to approach, approach, approach. Let it motivate you to CRUSH in the gym.
You will only have this fire of pain at your disposal for a limited time. Make the most of it while you've got it in you. It has the potential to let you achieve life changes and self-development in 6 months that would normally take 3 years. So don't let it go to waste.
Aside: if you follow the advice I've just given, your ex will try to hook up with you again within a couple months. But by then you'll be with a better girl. Watch and learn. Women have antenna on their heads and they know when you've gotten over them -- it makes them pop up in your life and irresistibly start chasing.

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-07-20T22:25:48+00:00

Get over it.

Was that peppy enough?

Title	Having trouble getting over my ex. I could really use a pep talk or something
Author	TheNaughtyGarbageMan
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	July 20, 2016 10:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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