Went on a date with a friend of mine on Saturday. Here is how it went down:

We originally planned to meet in the CBD so she could go to a local optometrist and purchase a new pair of glasses, but after a few hours of daygaming (and only doing one brief approach), she sends me a message telling me she is at a cafe in a commercial district not too far from the CBD because parking is usually a bitch on Saturday afternoons. I catch the train and meet her at the cafe as she is finishing lunch and we go together to the local optometrist where she purchases her new pair of glasses. We then walked to a local parking garage where her car was and she drove us into the CBD where parking was more abundant in late in the afternoon. We had an effortless and fluid conversation (as we always do, given that she is very talkative) about drugs, art, life, relationships, Auckland's mediocre night life, the shallow and superficial lives of millionaires, materialism, wine, the pitfall's of marriage and nuclear family life, her relationship with her 'master' working in China as a sex toy retailer.

We walked to a Japanese cosmetic shop at mall as she continued talking to me about how she is taking time off from having sex due to her tumultuous relationships with some ex-boyfriends/fiances/fuckbuddies/master. She jokingly mentioned about how she eats unhealthily and this soon morphed into a conversation about drugs, fruits, vegetables, aphrodisiacs and alcohol and results in persuading to go a local juice bar to 'renew her vitality'.

We then proceeded to a Malaysian restaurant where we have soy milk beverages and she spends some time studying for her winery studies examination on Monday. We continue waffling on a myriad of topics and I eventually end up showing her my OkCupid and the various girls I'm messaging. I get a text message over What's App from a Russian girl whom I persuade to come and join with us, but she declines (see screen shots posted below).

After at least 40 minutes, we go outside to be greeted by a moderate rainfall and then decide to head for the library, which has closed. She decides to order an Uber since she cannot be bothered walking to the student commons all at the university where she planned to continue studying for the day. We get out at an intersection and we cross the road as we hold hands together - I steadied the escalation from the time we left the cafe, which consisted of pats on the arm and back (I started by asking how cold her hands were).

We head into the students common room (a large room comprised of tables, sofas and computer stations) and sit together as she takes notes from her winery text book. We continue waffling our conversation for another 30-60 minutes and I start to gradually escalate on her as I talk to her about literature, existentialism, music, relationships and life - grabbing and caressing her hands, arms and thighs. I eventually go for the kiss, despite some initial playful resistance due to her supposed emotional hurdles over recent relationships. We eventually escalate the conversation to a sex talk where she talks about how repellent 'alpha guys', the trivialities of masculine culture and g-spot orgasms. She eventually asks me about sexual history, to which I give her the reluctant 'I am a virgin answer', to which she gives me a surprised, yet benign and sympathetic "aawwwwww" response and proceeds to call me cute and sweet as she kisses me more. She tells me she feels 'unworthy' to take my virginity and says I should hook up with an older, experienced women in her 30s who will show me how to be good in bed, or at least another mutual female friend of ours or a female friend of mine.

We proceed to go outside and walk down the road toward the parking lot where her car is, where we have a few sporadic make outs. She told me that that my physical escalation was 'a little pushy', 'a little clumsy' and 'unassertive' at times, despite the fact she has no sense of personal space. It was mixture of her 'temporary abstinence' and the fact she needed to concentrate on studying for her exam on Monday evening that prevented us taking it further, although I suggested that we both go to a park bench and sit in the back of her car to have a 'talk on meditation and presence', both of which she kindly declined. We had a sex talk as she drove me home, talking about older women, finding someone in the kink community, how titjobs aren't her thing given she has c cups, how she gives amazing blowjobs and how anal sex is problematic for her. We eventually agree to a date on Monday night shortly after her exam (which is great given it's mid semester break for me) before kissing me goodnight.