I got a girl's number, and have no idea what I'm doing.

ambiguous_juice · 2016-10-01T16:15:56+00:00

First off do not be needy. Just play it cool and ask her out sometime.

charliePUA · 2016-10-01T16:28:59+00:00

I usually just message them on Whatsapp and continue the conversation as normal before eventually working out a date to see them.

Versacedave · 2016-10-01T18:10:48+00:00

Don't give to much weight to the situation. Stakes are low. Just ask her to do something fun

2016-10-02T08:02:26+00:00

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jman12311 · 2016-10-02T22:37:56+00:00

I'm not looking for casual sex or hooking up here, hell I'd be happy if she just wants to hang out and be friends."

This kind of thinking is why women have no qualms about putting guys in friendzones if they're not interested. IT's all well and good if you really do only want this girl as a friend, but if you want more than friendship, then you have to change that mentality.

2016-10-01T23:10:39+00:00

I'm not looking for casual sex or hooking up here, hell I'd be happy if she just wants to hang out and be friends.

Not sure if this is why Tinder exists. Certainly you're in the wrong sub Reddit if this is your aim.

Not saying you shouldn't have friends and hang out with women...

WHAT DO.

Ask her to do something that is low key and non-threatening and easy to say yes to. Try to give her an either/or option, so there's a real crystal clear intention behind your ask and her response.

Depending on your style and her personality and your conversation, you need to simply come up with a way to ask the following:

Can you meet for coffee at the Starbucks on mainstreet Friday evening, or would Saturday work better for you?

Assuming the sale is what this is called in sales, and it's basically the same thing here.

She seems to like you. You've been taking up each others time. So, she should want to meet you in person. If she doesn't want to meet, well, at least you can move on. Worst case is that she is busy Friday/Saturday, and tells you that she can meet on Sunday at such and such a time.

If she's talking to you, and then balks at meeting, DO NOT pursue her like a desperate puppy. Sure, she might really have made plans for the next two weeks....maybe, but fine, let her give you a time to meet then.

If you act desperate it's not attractive. Also, if you don't act confident, it's not attractive either.

Finding the middle ground between being passive and aggressive is the key to this shit and it always depends on the girl and the situation how far you need to lean to one side or the other.

Title	I got a girl's number, and have no idea what I'm doing.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	24
Comments	14
Date	October 1, 2016 4:05 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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