Early 20s, just graduated, have a job with a major software company in Silicon Valley. Moving out in a few weeks, and hanging out in hometown (Toronto, ON) in the meanwhile. Somewhat new to TRP, but never had many problems with women except getting a little too attached. I've been spinning plates for the last 5 months, up to 3 at a time. It has been fun. But asktrp, I need your help for this one.

CONTEXT:

I went out with this girl who I met from Tinder who specifically said she doesn't use tinder for hook ups [yeah, right].

I've met her once so far (Monday). We met up downtown around 9, went for a walk in downtown and end up at a bar. A few drinks later, we leave and wander a bit more and she ends up asking to go to the strip club (her AND my first time).

We go, have drinks, and watch the ladies for a while. An hour and change passes and she starts putting her legs on me, getting nice and comfy and close. I put my hands anywhere I want on her and she's just begging for it. She's putty in my hands. She steals my phone (pw locked), goes to the washroom, comes back and asks me to her place.

At this point, I feel pretty tired and I know that my car risks getting towed/ticketed in the place it's parked in. I give myself a good 30 minutes in her room, but I choose not to go all the way with her. I undress her, we play a little, and then I pack up and go.

So the next day is here, and she's playing dumb (this is part of her character) about being innocent and acts blissfully innocent whenever I make a joke about how she was behaving the night before. "Oh you'll have to remind me exactly...I'm not so good with subtlety!" (clearly understands subtle remarks but doesn't want to play along).

INQUIRY:

So, we're still texting, we're still going, but we don't have a lot to go on. I won't tell her too much about myself, and she's pretty reserved about her personal life as well. I'm wondering how best to approach a second date and go all the way. I mean, it could be as easy as 1-2-3, dinner->her place or walk in park -> her place or whatever, but I feel like there could be some traps I'm not aware of BECAUSE I chose not to go all the way with her the first time. Also, she won't stop calling me a player, which makes me worry that I'm going to somehow have to disarm her ASD but without using too much texting.

Any hints/tips? If not, I'm just going to play it by ear, propose another walk/barhop/dinner and see where it goes from there.

Thanks asktrp.