Picking up girls at the gym, any different than usual?

IronManSeduction · 2016-10-19T03:56:21+00:00

Hi punnyusername,

You've already identified the main obstacle with approaching in the gym: Most people don't like to be interrupted in their workout, and aren't interested in having an extended conversation.

Another obstacle is that it's a closed environment. Regardless of how the interaction goes, both you and her are still going to be in the same environment to continue with your respective workouts. Also, it's likely you will see each other again in the future.

Being aware of these obstacles will help you develop a suitable strategy for approaching. Here's how I would advise:

1. Use the workout as a mutual conversation starter.

Since both of you are at the gym working out, there's a shared purpose of why the 2 of you are there, and thus a mutually shared reason to start a conversation. You can wait until both of you are in between sets, and start a conversation by asking how her workout's going, or what she's working on today. You can then use that as a platform to transition into more personal conversation, such as career, where she's from, etc.

2. Keep your conversations short

I'd assume that even if your best friend was at the gym, you wouldn't want to spend 10+ minutes having a conversation with him at the gym. You'd want to get back to your workout. Same principle applies here. The main purpose that you and her are at the gym is to work out. Therefore, break up your interaction with her into smaller conversations here and there.

3. Invite her to continue the conversation at another time

Tell her you enjoyed talking to her and want to get to know her better over coffee. Just like in any other environments of pickup, eventually you have to make the ask. There's no way around it, and you have to face the possibility of rejection.

Keep it low pressure and casual. You may run into her again at the gym in the future, so you have to be prepared for how that can work for you or against you. It can work for you by giving you more opportunities to establish rapport with her. It can work against you if you handle any rejections poorly.

It's a similar philosophy to any type of closed environment where you will likely see the same person again, like having a class together, or at the workplace. Just be cognizant of these obstacles, and be prepared to know how to handle a rejection.

2016-10-19T08:06:45+00:00

What I can say is that, you want to go with indirect openers. More specifically, ask her if you can take turns on the machine, because if you say shes cute or make a compliment, it will come off as weird most of the time.

Then strike up a conversation, qualify her and then you can get her number!

2016-10-19T23:42:39+00:00

Don't pick up girls at the gym. Nearly all of them are there to work out not socialize.

Title	Picking up girls at the gym, any different than usual?
Author	punnyusername12
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	October 19, 2016 3:30 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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