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[–]TheXXL 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
did 5 approaches in the city of munich and i got one number that turned out not respondig my texts.
It's still a numbers game. Doesn't change because you are in Germany.
The fifth girl i approached looked so scared lol..
That happens, next.
So what can i do?
You can do so many things...
Do i keep approaching?
Yes. Also reflect on your approaches to identify problems and better your overall interactions.
Its been a while now i havent approached any girl because i Have approach anxiety.
I once heard in a video from a RSD Instructor: "you will never lose approach anxiety, you will only learn how to deal with it."
Just approach, be open to your surroundings, observer her behavior to identify flaws in your approach or interaction, and don't sweat it because some girls will behave strangely.
By the way, i am German, i lived here my whole life, and i don't see any problems with approaching them. They might be a bit more stuck up sometimes, and people in general are more grumpy in winter, but nonetheless if you are charming, they will open up pretty fast.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Solid answer.Thanks!Should i use pick up lines would tha be effective?I mean in a funny way...
[–]TheXXL 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
From what i know, you can say whatever you want. It doesn't really matter as long as you can deliver it in the right way. Of course if you use a standard pickup line, the girl will shit test you hard, if you then can stand your ground, making it obvious that you were just joking, you should be fine.
I sometimes deliver strong lines like: "i cannot live without you!!" with a grin and the mindset that i can say whatever shit i want to, and it most of the time works well, but like i say, you need to have a strong frame for that.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ok and what about german nightclubs?Can you get girls there as an english speaker?I know body language is most important but i havent been to one yet and would like to know if you can get makeouts or hookups.
[–]TheXXL 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Let me tell you a little story: I was with a good female friend and her hot girl friend in a club. Bot looking gorgeous, one married, the other single. We three were having a blast, the girls were dancing like crazy, and i tried my best to also dance as best as i could. The funny thing was, as i thought, there would be many needy guys there, all just standing there in a circle around us, their beer in hand, drooling over the girls, and no one had the balls to even dance with one of the girls.
Then, out of nowhere a guy appeared, dancing with my friend, getting very close and being so smooth and fun... she loved it. You know what the funny thing was? He was from the UK. He was the only guy who had the balls to even try. He didn't say a word, he just danced and tried to escalate.
This should show you some things, first off: you should get the exotic bonus with women, you are not from here. Secondly, most germans speak english, so don't worry, and third, if you relax and just be fun, you have won over the majority of needy afc's. This is even more true in clubs and bars. With the right attitude you will get makeouts, and even more on every single night out.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Cool!This gave me some confidence.But having a few friends at the moment should i try clubbing alone?Or would i look to weird?
[–]TheXXL 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You can always go alone, i mean, sure it might feel strange at first, but it feels very nice if you got the hang of it. Treat it like you go out to find new people to hang out with, interact with everyone, and if you go to the same place often, be friendly to the bar staff, waitresses etc. Be fun with them, address them on a personal level if you can, since they will remember you next time you walk into the door! this will give you social proof.
I had a bar where everyone knew me, and when i went there, first thing i did was hugging the cute barkeeper girl, shaking hands with the DJ, and in between he came over to bring my group drinks. People were trying to interact with me, women looking at me like "he's hot", guys trying to be my friend etc. It was always very much fun.
If you get asked where your friends are, you can be honest and say you are out alone, not because you don't have friends, but because you love the freedom of it. Then change topic and make new friends.
One more thing you might try, there is a german forum, pickupforum.de, where you could maybe get some people out to go sarging with you, not sure if there are still lairs around though.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Decent man that for the help.I arranged a night out with my friend and we will go try a nightclub in Munich.I hope i have some luck there.2 more questions:1 Do i just start dancing with a girl or what?What if she is in a group?Im not good at group aproaching lol.2 any good nightclubs in Munich except P1?
[–]roadto9k 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
hey man. p1 is not a great place to meet woman. if you are looking for easy pickups try milchbar or 089 club.
[–]Leo_5 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What county did you move from? Can you speak German?
[–]IWriteForGroupies 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Learn German. The nightlife in Germany is amazing. Also, make friends. If you are American, use that to your advantage.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I am on it but that takes time man...What do you mean it is amazing?Like you can have fun and get girls or something?
[–]IWriteForGroupies 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Like you can have fun and get girls or something?
That is exactly what I mean. Be careful, sometime 16 year olds sneak in or they are there once a month.
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
But how easy?Without speaking german.I havent been to a nightclub yet.
[–]IWriteForGroupies 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
If you can dance, you have a good chance. You also speak English. Just learn a little German and let them know you speak English.
I speak a little german.Not very good but i speak and understand basic.So i must just walk up to them and start dancing?Maybe i will look weird...What if they are in a group?
[–]IWriteForGroupies 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I also speak a little German, a little Spanish and I am working on Russian. The club is a special environment. People go there to drink and have fun. The club is all about trying and having fun. I recommend learning some club game. It will pay off a lot for you. People in Germany are allowed to start drinking at 16 and the hard stuff at 18. They can go to clubs at 16 with a permission slip and at 18 they are adults. You are at the perfect age in Germany to get out there and enjoy the nightlife. You are also at the perfect age to learn German. There are hundreds if not thousands of resources online.
True man.I dont have a vehicle yet.Thats why i havent gone out.But give me an overview on German nightclubs.Have you been to one?Have you had success?
[–]roadto9k 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
why would you need a vehicle to go out?
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because i live 2 hours walking away from the shittiest bar.
[–]IWriteForGroupies 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Germany has awesome public transportation. You can get almost anywhere with a bus or train. I have had success in multiple cities of Germany and I am a crappy dancer. I normally go to the clubs, dance and just talk to people. In most cases, I end up meeting a girl or making friends. Stop making excuses and get out. Do you have any friends in Germany?
2 omlh that dont even care about meeting girls...
[–]IWriteForGroupies1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Maybe they care about having fun and getting out of the house or whatever.
beeing a foreigner and not only speaking german should be an advantage, actually. we had times were we were pretending to be from an english speaking country with great success.
[–]Kurt_Kobain 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
What do you look like? Dress style?
Im 6'3 i dress athletic or jeans with a black jacket.You know standard guys clothes.
[–]Kurt_Kobain1 points 9 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Height is excellent. Standard clothes, not good enough. Race? Are you good-looking? If you are not white then you have to overcompensate. Give Tinder a go. If you insist on 'cold-approaching' then at least do it at social gatherings & social settings. Build some comfort and connection before asking contact details. Street game clearly isn't work for you, change strategies.
I am white lol.Blue eyes Dark hair and i dont know about my looks.Not ugly though.Let me say above average
[–]Blueeyesboi 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No luck in tinder i have tried it :|
[–]TheXXL 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am sure you just have bad pictures. I believe there's a tinder sub reddit, try there for help.
[–]Kurt_Kobain1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Either you have to try foreign girls in germany (that place is a tourism hub), try to sign up on expat sites which the purpose is to bring expats together i.e. Meetups, activities, etc there are lots of solo female travelers or infiltrate social circles and blend with locals. Just do it.
[–]roadto9k 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
hey man, i am from munich. people in germany are generally a bit uptight towards strangers. but that also means that girls are not getting approached so often, which makes you stand out. keep approaching
[–]MorelloLuke9911 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Munich girls are soooo sweet bro. Just keep it up!
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