[FR] Surprised myself today, and told a girl I am not interested. You should read this if you see yourself being a chump sometimes.

Sarothisx · 2017-02-19T21:48:04+00:00

Good insight you got there, however you don't have to view it as strong or weak. You do not have to judge yourself positively or negatively for your decisions. You just try your best every moment and set clear boundaries for how your relationships should look like. And that is enough, and maybe i am reading too much into your post but i feel like your selfworth should not depend on random mistakes everybody makes. You are always alright the way you are and should always love yourself the way you are. With all the mistakes you made and will make.

bugxter · 2017-02-20T04:05:55+00:00

Then why the hell are you trying to make a girlfriend out of a woman who doesn’t want to date you? Where’s your self-respect?"

I understand your message and agree wholeheartedly. Now, I personally think some girls are worth giving them the benefit of the doubt.

You see, women get asked out all the time by boring guys, so in her mind it's definitely more probable that you are one of those. I guess my question is, did you have the chance to show that girl how cool you are? I'd have that first date just to let her 'have a taste' and if their attitude continues to be flakey, I take it as what it is: rejection.

A lot of those 'un receptive at first' Girls I have dated get hooked after they have the chance to know me.

today05 · 2017-02-20T08:02:21+00:00

did i miss the point? i dont see you saying no anywhere there,even more: you agreed to her next proposal:

"So she asked, friday? and I was like ok, sure"

there is a difference in actually telling her that you have better things to do than talk about nothing, than having a shower thought.

and also:

Then why the hell are you trying to make a girlfriend out of a woman who doesn’t want to date you?

while in general its true, and right. sometimes this is not the right way, you know the saying: "aim for the stars", if you reach high enough things wont happen easily, sometimes it takes multiple tries to get things going, one just have to be careful to chose wisely, and don't waste time on something that's not worth the effort.

Title	[FR] Surprised myself today, and told a girl I am not interested. You should read this if you see yourself being a chump sometimes.
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Date	February 19, 2017 8:51 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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