I am [20/m]. I was her crush (19/f), and after sex she is not talking to me!

Krazyflipz · 2017-02-22T13:40:37+00:00

Hit the reset button. No more treating her like a close friend who you can comfortably be touchy feely with. Try to pretend she is a guy friend, be nice and friendly if you're in the same social circle, but don't seek out 1 on 1 situations with her. No more texting. No more plans for 1 on 1 hanging out.

Do all this and keep being the same as you were with all your other friends. You mentioned you were in bed with another chick watching a movie (the one that fell asleep or whatever) . Keep doing stuff like, be flirty/playful with other girls in your social circle.

You need to pump the breaks. I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but she obviously has some sort of issue with what went down. You need to give her time and space to process how she thinks and feels about everything. Consistently reaching out to her is not helping you.

R-o-b-e-r-t · 2017-02-22T12:55:34+00:00

It's completely rational to obsess over the situation; however, the best course of action is to stop doing so.

Remember, there are plenty other girls out there. I would honestly just ignore her - that might be why she's ignoring you now: she got your validation.

kimyungill · 2017-02-22T13:00:12+00:00

Dont talk to her. Easy.

cacadoodo · 2017-02-22T13:29:13+00:00

You got played yo.

Helpcalculus · 2017-02-22T16:59:38+00:00

I'll tell you my story that has some similarities. This is not a solution story, it's just to show you that girls act like that all around the world.

Two summers ago I (24m) met a girl(18 or 19) at the summer camp. Let's call her Ana. At first I liked her purely from physical attraction stand point and later as I got to know her, I liked her for her personality too. We liked the same shows, comedians, had same kind of sense of humor. At that time I had a gf so I treated Ana just as yet another kid in the camp. I became friends with mostly everyone in the camp, so I knew people from her social circle. Camp was over in about 3 weeks and we only met each other once on a "camp people" gathering. At this point I was still treating her as another friend.

Last summer me and my friends organized hackathon/programming event. Suddenly, she came with her friends and we all greeted each other. They just came as guests and not participants. So after the teams started working on their projects, we went outside to get drinks and started drinking in the park. Normally when I speak, I use 50% English words and 50% my local language. For some reason she was bitchy to me saying that it is stupid and that I should use only the local language. I didn't give a shit and kept my regular talking style. It was cold outside and at some point most of the people went inside. I was left with my buddy, Ana, and Ana's female friend. I knew that my buddy liked Ana's friend so I was trying to be a good wingman and I isolated Ana from them so that they could have some 1 on 1 time. As a side note, she started speaking 100% in English from this moment on (this is hilarious :D). So Ana was getting more drunk and started to tell me her secrets. Saying that she has never told them to anyone else. I truly (important) understood what was bothering her and gave her genuinely friendly advises. I suspect that this made some kind of influence on her. She started coming closer to me and I was backing off because she was drunk and I would feel like a dick using this advantage. Suddenly the rest of the guys came back and I sat down to keep drinking. She came to me and sat right next to me. Her face was coming closer and closer at which point the kiss was inevitable. My brain activity has never been so active. In 1 second I had to decide if I should go for a kiss or if I shouldn't and the reasons why and why not and all this bullshit. So I decided not to go for a kiss and instead kissed her on a forehead like a child. Immediately she said "Really?" That was it, now I felt like a dick for saying no so I immediately started kissing her in beast mode. All the other guys went "wtf?", so I told Ana "let's go deeper into the park." As soon as we set down on the ground next to a tree, she started grabbing my dick. She couldn't wait. In few second would be the greatest moment of night. One of the guys from the group came to find us and said "Guys, you are drunk. Maybe you should just stop and talk tomorrow when you are sober." Ana replied "Fuck off, I want to fuck him." To which I said, "You heard her dude." I fell in love with her attitude. So the night in the park was fun and loud. At some point we were lying on the ground and talking and she fell asleep. I kept trying to wake her up but she was totally out. I waited for the sunrise and called my friend to help me bring her inside. We put her inside and covered her with warm clothes as she was freezing.

I left home early in the morning to take shower and to get some sleep. So I came back in the evening and she and her friends were gone. I wanted to text her but didn't know what to say. Suddenly she texted herself saying "I don't remember some stuff from last night so I'm not sure what we did." Fuuuck, are you serious? You don't remember that you raped me in front of your friends? So I replied plain and simple

Quoting/Translating from my facebook

Me: We had sex.

Ana: Did you use condoms?

Me: Yes I did. Don't worry, it happened and it was fun.

Ana: Only thing I'm worried about is that I don't remember anything.

Me:You know I'm not going to make a big deal out of it.

Ana: At least I hope I enjoyed. I should drink less.

Me: You were very aggressive, in a good way. I tried to resist for long but you know.. I'm sorry you don't remember. But I appreciate that you are being mature about it. And yes, you fucking enjoyed it.

Ana: Good then.

Me: Indeed :)

Everything ended perfectly right? You are wrong boys. I didn't want to start relationship with her because the reason why I broke up with my last gf was that I realized I never want to have a gf. Never want to have a wife. Never want to have children. When I talk about this ideology, even my guy friends say I'm an idiot. There was no point in explaining this philosophy to an 18-19 year old girl. So I didn't want to lie to Ana just to get in her pants few more times. As as result I never texted her anymore so that she wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Guess what? 2 months later I couldn't resist :D "Maybe she will be cool being friends with benefits", I said. I remembered that we spoke about few comedians that I really liked and I was sure she would like them to. I started by

Me: Dude, I just remembered I promised to share links to some stand-ups. Here's the link.

Ana: I'm out of town and the internet is shitty here. I will watch in when I come back.

Me: Sure.

2 days later she writes back

Ana: Nothing special.

Me: Hm, okay. Try this one.

Ana: Yeah a bit better. By the way, that night you were a dick. I was drunk, it was cold outside and you didn't even bring me inside. Hopefully if something like that happens to you in the future and the girl is drunk, at least you will bring her inside.

Me: Trust me, I didn't leave you outside. I was sitting next to you the whole time because I couldn't wake you up. I even called my friend to help me drag you inside because you were shaking. I don't know what your friends told you, but I was sitting next to you thinking how to wake you up. I was freezing as well and I put my jacket on you.

Ana: Yeah whatever.

There you go OP. I bet you see many similarities in my and your story. I didn't write this to give you any suggestions or advises. I just wanted you to see that it is not your fault, some people are just crazy. I have never spoken to her since. We have common friends and we always avoid each other. But damn this girl was hot :D

2017-02-22T13:53:22+00:00

Maybe tell her that you feel like there was no closure after the party and that you would like to talk to her in person over ice cream or something about how she feels - but if you dont care about her feelings than dont engage her in any conversation.

Definitely dont call a crazy girl a liar, that's just putting gasoline on the fire. If she wants to know details about what she doesn't remember, emphasize how much fun she was having, how she was beautiful when she was laughing, how she made you feel comfortable.

No one wants to feel like they made a drunken mistake... And you dont want her to twist this around in her head to think she might have been unwilling when you guys had sex. Source: been in this situation before.

Cocainebuttfuck · 2017-02-22T12:56:31+00:00

Are you drunk right now bud?

Casper3 · 2017-02-22T12:46:15+00:00

Title	I am [20/m]. I was her crush (19/f), and after sex she is not talking to me!
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Date	February 22, 2017 11:25 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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