Fluctuations in self image

zeddditor · 2017-03-25T14:50:35+00:00

I have the same problem. For me this not only applies to self-image but also to how I perceive the world in general. On some days everything is exciting and even the most boring people are interesting and funny to me, on other days the world is dull and not even the things and people I truly care about seem enticing. I think this is not a personal problem. It almost certainly applies to everyone. On some days we just feel like shit.

When you feel awkward you are conscious of yourself as a thing in the world. You do not perceive yourself as an agent, the center of your own world. Others are now at the center of your world and you are more or less just a secondary addition they can judge. You are a thing.
To battle this feeling you have to direct your attention away from yourself. Break open the echo chamber of negative thought. Focus on singular other people, look in their faces and start to communicate with them. As soon as you direct your attention to something other than you your body and yourself move to the back of your attention. You experience them as you experience them normally - as something through which you act, not something about which you think.

Xanarxses · 2017-03-25T19:20:02+00:00

I can relate to an extent but I fluctuate between somewhat different POVs than you.

"I look so good a million bucks is jealous."
"I'm too different and out of the ordinary."

As others have said, what you have is a difference of focus.

When you're good, you focus inward and you're like... yeah this is good shit.

When you're bad, you focus outward and you go... goddamn everyone thinks I look like shit.

But y'know everything we think and feel depends on a random whim of our innards.

A few days ago I felt awesome.

A couple days ago onward I've been feeling a tad frustrated.

It's just a matter of doing the things you enjoy in order to pull yourself out of the shitter.

I have a good tendency to bounce back.

Feel the negative thoughts inside you.

Why are they there?

How'd they get there?

What's keeping them there?

How can you deal with them and put them to rest?

It's a lifelong journey as is everything else in personal development.

We can always get better.

However... don't think that you're improving from a state of nothingness.

Don't look at like "I'm starting from zero" because let's be honest. You're not.

Don't let negativity take over your day. Do some breathing exercises. Relax, broseph. You can't stress yourself out.

Life is filled with difficulty and adversity. Don't make yourself your enemy, unless you have to because you need structure or discipline, in that case do it but with a measured approach. Like a stern teacher.

abstractpickupartist · 2017-03-25T14:07:57+00:00

"I'm satisfied with how I look, and I'm confident"

"You know what, I'll never get iois"

Well, the first statement is a statement about you, the second is a statement about the unknowable future, with an assumed failure.

And guess which thinking pattern leads to more success in life?

So, recognize the second pattern is NOT about self image. The second is a depressive thinking pattern, which leads to self-fulfilling prophecies.

Anytime you start thinking the second thoughts, just tell yourself "I can't predict the future". Live in the now.

The other aspect of your thinking is that the first is about who you are, and the second is based you what others think of you

status of recent interactions

See?

Who you are is independent of what other people think of you. This is your old way of thinking coming out "I'm who a beautiful women says I am."

Another mantra when you think these thoughts is "Who I am does not depend on other people"

dallasdog · 2017-03-26T00:37:26+00:00

Confidence with less fluctuations

Title	Fluctuations in self image
Author	AnantGoswami
Upvotes	8
Comments	4
Date	March 25, 2017 1:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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