Why am I 21 and had 0 Girlfriend in my life

jamesy69 · 2017-04-15T15:38:48+00:00

I feel you dude, I'm in a similar situation. 21, plenty of lays, but no gf. I daygame, night game, have a good social circle and do online game but it seems that whenever I start to date a girl I just get bored and start ignoring her. The longest "relationship" (if you can call it that) that I've had lasted a month, and I was still getting with other girls at the same time.

I have that same feeling of being kind of unfulfilled by my sexual experiences but I'm not really sure how to progress from here

Sometimes I think that maybe it's just unnatural for a person at our age to be in an LTR but I also think that that's kind of bullshit

this____is_bananas · 2017-04-15T15:54:23+00:00

Oh man. Im not a pickup artist. I do enjoy a good relationship more than one nighters. I sub here and read for interest but very rarely (maybe never) post. I open with that so you know where I'm coming from.

Okay so obviously you don't have a problem talking to girls. This is about you.

Do you know what you want from a relationship? I mean. Write out what you want your day in a relationship to look like. Like a schedule. And a week. Goals for a month/6 months/a year. Whatever.

Do you know what qualities you want you find in a relationship? Do you want someone career motivated? Do you want to have kids? What are your interests? What do you want hers to be? Is she clean? Do you want her to take 90 minutes getting ready before you do anything or would you rather spend that time together? Do you want to be with an introvert? There's so many things a person could be. It's your job to narrow that list down to a few.

Then. When you know what you want and how to spend your time, the power is suddenly in your hands. You get to sort through all the girls out there until you find one that meets your standards. And you'll have the confidence to talk because you ALREADY KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR. You've developed a specific target. It's no longer am ambiguous process. Your goal is clear and well defined.

Good luck!

2017-04-15T15:21:17+00:00

The inverse of "night game" is... drum roll please... "day game." Get Googling.

2017-04-17T15:30:38+00:00

Think of sex not as a goal of itself, but a stairstep towards a closer relationship with a girl. If you are only doing party girls, don't expect much in the romance field. You're just one of a long train of penises in their lives, nothing special to them. Consider sticking to a single girl at a time too. If there's a girl you like, then throw down the gauntlet of exclusivity....you only date her and she only dates you. if she refuses, she was never what you wanted in the first place.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-04-16T16:24:08+00:00

_____1: A different angle of looking at this_______

When it comes to night gaming. I have no problems. But when I talk to girls in the day or try to chase a girl in the day. I seem to be all nervous I'll be overthinking and Analysing.

Framing this as "gaming," is less helpful than looking at the bigger picture, which is that ALL this is under the umbrella of socializing.

What is it about socializing with women during the night that is simpler for you?
What aspects of socializing with women during the day, do you find more difficult?

_____2: Try a different vantage point_______

I'm not an asshole and I have not liked a girl in 4 years.

Whether or not you feel a romantic attraction to a girl, isn't related to whether or not you're "an asshole." But in order to say more with any certainty, you'd have to describe this other situation in more detail.

How did you meet this other girl 4 years ago?
Were you "gaming" back then?
How did things go with that girl?

_____3: Mindsets can set limits_______

Even when I do like a girl, it's doesn't last more than 3 weeks. I just can't put a finger on why I have not settled down.

This is likely because of the mindsets you have adopted in "gaming." These mindsets and preconceptions about "game" and "seduction" have a way of setting limits on what you can achieve in all of this.

How long have you been "gaming" as you are now?
What PUAs do you follow or model yourself after? What books have you been reading? What material has influenced you?

_____4_______

My hookups and one night stands are starting to make me feel empty deep down.

This could indicate that:

You're sleeping with women even if they don't match your own personal values.
You're compromising who you are as a person, just to get to sex.

Locupleto · 2017-04-15T15:59:24+00:00

You need to work on confidence. Lack of it is a very big turn-off.

Title	Why am I 21 and had 0 Girlfriend in my life
Author	Jumbajettt
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	April 15, 2017 3:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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