I don't want you to block off time in your schedule just for me. How do I respond?

SnowThrasher · 2014-10-06T15:56:28+00:00

You made it sound too urgent. Plan your day and if she fits in your schedule great, if not no worries and figure out another time.

throwaway-aa2 · 2014-10-07T07:36:06+00:00

You know you fucked up. You should have told her to come, make it seem like she would tag along with whatever plans you had. You made yourself seem wayy too needy e.g.

Let me know asap cause I'm making plans since it's my day off

Let me know immediately! It's my day off and I want you to be a big part of that!

You should have just asked her when is the next time she's available (or told her when you're available). Don't ever say shit like "you should", always just remove that completely. So "You should come to Greenville" becomes "Come to Greenville this week". See how much more direct and easier that is? saying "you should" prompted her shit test which could have been avoided

"Come to Greenville this week" is direct, it's not a question, and it prompts her to respond with what her schedule is like this week, all WITHOUT ever asking any question at all. Remember, girls are supposed to be the ones who communicate in a roundabout way.

And instead of saying "Let me know asap cause I'm making plans since it's my day off", say "Let me know by the end of today". You don't need to give her a reason. Those are your terms and you don't need to explain yourself. Example:

Me - Come to Greenvile this week

Her - I may be available Thursday night

Me - Let me know by the end of today

Her - either Ok or I can't do this week or I can't know by the end of today

but at least from there you can give appropriate responses.

[deleted] · 2014-10-06T15:57:05+00:00

Me - Hey what's your week looking like?

[Fixed] Hey, what day are you free next week

Me - Just planning my week. You should come to Greenville. ;)

Don't use smileys; you're not a teenage girl.

Me - Let me know asap cause I'm making plans since it's my day off

Way too needy. You're relying on a girl you met one time to answer before you make plans.

Wait another week to respond to show her that you aren't needy and then ask her what day she is free.

Kewl_Kid · 2014-10-06T15:59:02+00:00

I would say you should have called her out on saying 'may be available' but that ship has sailed now. Maybe just ask her again tomorrow and say "So are you free on Thursday or not?" and then proceed to make plans from there if she is available.

kingofpoplives · 2014-10-07T00:13:30+00:00

Many Tinder girls you meet and bang on first date tend to flake. Maybe they have bfs or husbands and just wanted a quick fuck. Maybe they are somewhat embarrassed about giving up the pussy straight away. Who knows, but that is my experience -- a lot of these types are hot and fuck great too...

Oh should I?

This is beta bait, which you fell for. Would have been better if you didn't respond, or responded with indifference.

Let me know asap cause I'm making plans since it's my day off

This does come off rather needy and a little butt hurt, which is why she slams the door in your face with this:

Ha well I don't want you to block off time in your schedule just for me

Personally, I wouldn't say anything to her for a while, considering how badly you just got owned. You best bet is let things die down for at least a week, let the memory of your neediness fade, then try to rekindle later on. Although in all honesty, I'd guess your odds of banging her again are rather low.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-10-07T02:18:20+00:00

This was a pretty sophisticated shit test she threw. I definitely would have failed so no advice from me.

Title	I don't want you to block off time in your schedule just for me. How do I respond?
Author	Littlesoldierboy
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	October 6, 2014 3:51 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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