Demoted my HB9 GF into a plate, now I don't feel the drive to approach girls less attractive than her

absurdi5t · 2014-10-10T19:35:15+00:00

I've dated a couple girls that I thought were WAY out of my league.

What you start realizing though, is that they're not out of your league because they are with you. Just because they're not as easy to catch, doesn't mean you're not able to. There's a lot of luck/timing/patience involved, especially with cold approach. Mark Manson says he strikes out all the time. Its just part of the game.

When my ex HB9 broke up with me after years and years out of the blue (yes yes, she broke up with me), I felt the same way. So I did all the normal shit; gym, diet, interesting hobbies, getting my life back in order basically.

A couple weeks later, an HB8-9 approached me and straight up asked me if I wanted to bang. We fucked for two days straight before she had to fly back to where she came from.

Basically, its all about working on yourself, and the rest will fall in place. Sounds like your at the top of the barrel, so just keep improving your SMV, and the rest will fall in place.

I also find that it helps sometimes to go out without the intention of getting laid. Oddly enough, it seems to get me laid more. Good luck.

oldredder · 2014-10-12T22:35:14+00:00

You lit the fire, now it's at your ass.

Maybe you (likely) can get sex back out of the old GF because she seems so desperate - as long as you play it that way, not as the beta-changed-my-mind-take-me-back loser - but then again, now you have no choice, consequences of your actions, but to keep seeking new women to get sex.

Practice makes perfect. You're out of practice & you know it. That's it.

My personal opinion is that if you let your standards slip it will show & it won't do you any good. Women who are less attractive aren't nicer or easier to get with, they are just less attractive. Since you will perceive the difference it will materialize in you as a difference. You think it's hard now to approach? What happens if it becomes obvious to you & to all women around you that you find uglier girls easier to approach but not hot ones? You're not like that now but what if? You wanna be that guy?

I don't wanna be that guy.

enticingasthatmaybe · 2014-10-10T20:40:19+00:00

First of all, you probably derped a little with the way you handled the "plating" of your GF.

Cold approaching other women and having a GF aren't mutually exclusive things. As you gain experience you'll learn that the commitment level you give a woman is a fluid dynamic in your mind, and that her status to you is defined (and expressed) only in your mind.

I mean; unless you're living with this chick, her being downgraded to plate status should have been nearly transparent to her. You've just become more busy / got other shit going on. You would have still felt the positive side effects that comes with that level of dread:

On top of that, I can hit her up whenever I want, and she'll come over and fuck (she drives).

Of course you have to follow your own morals about how to behave, but make no mistakes about the other side. Women (including your former GF) behave exactly like I've described with absolutely zero moral guilt.

Are my standards just set to high?

Right now your balls are freshly squeezed and you're facing the rare crisis that follows fucking a smokeshow on the regular. Most of us have been there and your (unrealistic) standards will taper as you pull farther away from away from the HB9.

She will find a high value man to commit before you find another body as good as her to fuck. You'll need to accept this fact moving forward.

Title	Demoted my HB9 GF into a plate, now I don't feel the drive to approach girls less attractive than her
Author	Misterbbc
Upvotes	9
Comments	4
Date	October 10, 2014 7:09 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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