How do you meet more women in college?

Bobbert84 · 2017-07-31T17:21:09+00:00

Be social with everyone. Right now you are scared of rejection. Scared that a tight group of friends will reject you. Scared to go out alone to pick up girls. Until you get over those things nothing else will help you.

My advice is this. Every day talk to 10 new people. Can be anyone but not just a hello. Strike up a conversation. Don't stop till you have had 10 conversations with people of 3-5 minutes or so. Do that for 2-3 weeks.

After that go back to your college and do the same. Do not approach girls in class ideally. Doing it in such a "cornered" situation makes it tricky. If you want to approach a girl in your class do it outside of class (not just outside the room... hours after or days when you happen to bump into them again).

For places to meet women... it depends on the type you want to meet. Think of the type of lady you want then pick something she'd do. Dance, Yoga and Acting are always good if you need something general though.

Also you need to get over the "single women" thing. A lot of women say they are not single cause they get hit on a lot. A lot of women who are with guys are fairly casual so not much above single.

Do not let that stop. No ring on the finger? They are fair game.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-08-07T09:22:53+00:00

I used to have approach anxiety and started to approach girls in my class.

Have you been socializing with everyone, or just focusing on girls?

Hint: if you've been focused on girls, then you're doing it wrong. Talk with everyone. It's easier to get warmed up and easier to connect with people overall.

Most weren't interested and/or were in relationships.

How did you find this out? What length of time were you interacting with them to find out they "weren't interested?"
Did you befriend the ones in relationships?
What were you doing overall, to create social circles for yourself?

I met them later on in the year (April/May) so I didn't get time to know them well or meet their single friends.

To be blunt, this is an excuse. A week is time enough to hit it off with someone and relate to them as people. One meeting is enough time, if you are being sociable.

What can I do to meet more people?

Terribly easy. Get some variety in your social activities.

Hash runs. Trail running + beer + fit people = win
Couchsurfing meets. Hang with travelers and people who like to be around travelers.
Social partner dancing. Salsa, Tango, Lindy hop, West coast swing, etc. You really can't go wrong. Learn something fun and have an excuse to be close to a girl in a fun and non-threatening way. Also, you're going to learn how to get comfortable being in close and touching a girl and learning how to know when and how they like being touched.
Download the Meet-up app. Scan for groups near you that you share an interest with.

I fear that people already have cliques and aren't interested in getting newcomers in them, or introducing women to others.

Wow. A fair amount to unpack here. Let's break it down.

Just because people have cliques, doesn't mean they won't interact with new people.
Just because people have friends, doesn't mean they wouldn't welcome a friendly person as a newcomer to the group.
Socializing isn't about getting people to introduce women to you. If you are socializing well, you'll be connecting with people and building some sort of relationship/friendship with them. THEN, they'll want to introduce others to you as a consequence. But it's not like you meet people just so they can introduce women to you. If you aren't taking care of them as people, they will have no reason to want their friends to meet you.

I can join Greek Life in fall.

I'd recommend NOT joining Greek life. There is too much baggage and a lot of guys in Greek life too commonly have an unhealthy view of what male-female interactions look like.

Title	How do you meet more women in college?
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Date	July 31, 2017 9:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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