Third date, feeling a lot of pressure due to lack of experience. Tips?

mobilebrowser47 · 2017-08-02T14:30:22+00:00

Dude I had the worst sexual anxiety when I started dating my first gf at 27. The best advice I can give you is to relax as best as you can and to crack some stupid jokes. Humor is very powerful in putting people at ease, creating attraction, and taking the pressure off the situation.

You should also touch her. If you are trying to go for the kiss at the end of the day, it will be very hard because you've build up all this pressure on yourself. But if you have already been cuddling with her for a while, the kiss will come naturally.

It sounds as if you found a great chick who is clearly into you. That is perfect! But you are too afraid to mess up and because of this you are messing it up. Take a risk. You have nothing to lose because you are messing it up already. If you do nothing you fail, if you do something you may win.

2017-08-02T17:17:46+00:00

due to my fault

Yes, but that can be worked on.

I don't think she understood anything

She did.

Has this happened to anyone else?

All of us, brother. Your first couple experiences will be hard, but you'll quickly realize that they, especially just a kiss, are not a big deal at all.

I struggled through my first few dates too, then got to the point where I literally can't remember the last time I went out on a date with a girl and didn't kiss her the first time.

Own your masculinity and never apologize for it.

Girls don't read romance novels about gentle, reserved, innocent men who hid their intentions, played nice, went through the typical date routine, and eventually asked them if it was ok to kiss.

Girls read books like "Fifty Shades of Grey" because they feature characters who relentlessly go after what they want, and when they want the girl, they make it overtly apparent.

Brother, if this girl is into you the way you made it sound, she wants you to kiss her. She wants to feel wanted. She wants to turn you on. She wants you to escalate.

If you don't do this, no matter how uncomfortable you might feel given your inexperience, it's over with her. The only way to overcome this is by doing it.

DuplicitousKarma · 2017-08-02T16:55:52+00:00

A good way to take the pressure off at the end of the night is to kiss her in the middle of your date (in a more private place and just a sweet, tender, light touch of the lips). I always find it endearing a guy does this in the middle of the date. It also sets a little anticipation for when the date ends because I cannot wait for that goodnight kiss!

Good luck!

Title	Third date, feeling a lot of pressure due to lack of experience. Tips?
Author	mobilebrowser47
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	August 2, 2017 12:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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