Is sex and relationships even worth it in the end?

Oskatek · 2014-10-27T21:46:51+00:00

but to me I see all this as a game

it is a game! look over /r/trpgame if you haven't already

All these unspoken rules and all the things you have to be and do correctly and ultimately it just seems to end badly for most people.

you won't achieve everything in the first try, take small steps or take a huge one and learn its all up to you.

but to me I don't want to live a life pretending to be something I'm not just so I can get laid, it seems like a hollow and sad life. You could argue my life is already that, but at least I have the satisfaction that I'm true to myself.

IF your life is already sad life and you're age of 20 maybe go out and explore life, maybe if you go out today you will meet a girl that will be interested in you? be a positive person when i think my life is sad i improve myself.

overall i think you should improve yourself if you think your life is sad, however its all up to you when you get hold of yourself bro

oldredder · 2014-10-28T05:24:54+00:00

"I don't want to live a life pretending to be something I'm not just so I can get laid"

Then don't. Actually improve yourself so you aren't a faker. Unless you're so far, forever far, from able to be improved that you know your only hope is to be a faker.

If that's the case then be a faker & get laid or don't be a faker and never get laid.

"look at both sides of the argument"

That doesn't even make sense: it's not A vs B, "both sides", it's FACETS (thousands, items of truth but not all related or useful together) vs BULLSHIT (millions of assertions opposite to reality).

You need to stop stagnating. You need to get smarter, faster, stronger and it has to show to the outside world as well as get you real benefits like money, sex, influence & confidence.

"I play video games mostly"

That is not a hobby.

Hate the gym: fail. You better learn to like being healthier, being fit, because if you're not you are going to ruin your life and be unappealing to anyone else.

We live in a SEDENTARY culture but our bodies are evolved for WORK. With current dietary balances that are common & size of meals that are common you'll be a fat pig in no time if you don't switch up your diet & exercise more. Not true for everyone but almost everyone.

bar soap: I suggest a gel. The gel will probably work more effectively & be quicker, plus the axe type stuff also has some added scents that stick to your skin but don't irritate mine. They smell like the other axe stuff infused with pheromones but I could be wrong on that. The application there would seem pointless to me considering how much will wash off. Added bonus: when I have an empty bottle I just mix water with new gel from a new bottle and it's fast as fuck to just pour the mostly liquid gel on. If I'm skipping the hair-washing & shaving I can get a shower done super damn fast because it takes very little scrubbing if any and almost zero time to get all soaped up. Bar soap sucks.

"I don't have any friends..." Make some. Find a way to be in common over anything & do it.

Therapy: I don't recommend it either. You don't seem depressed to me. Just highly unmotivated and surprised, maybe, that a life that has no value or almost no value is also no fun for you to live in. You have to add value first to enjoy it and for others to enjoy it with you, even if it's just sex, or if it's dating, friends, etc.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-10-27T21:39:13+00:00

If you're a 20 year old virgin then YES.

The game is fucking retarded. And the womenfolk who play it, are fucking retards. Not to impugn down syndrome people by association of course.

But in your situation, play it. Get that dick wet. Know HOW to do it, even if it's too moronic to actually interest you.

deadstick_it · 2014-10-28T04:08:30+00:00

You have to start somewhere, man. Get a morning ritual started. Alarm goes off, get up right then. No snooze. You had better have been to bed early enough to get 7-8 hours down. Get that shower just right. Put some shampoo in your hand and inhale the scent. Enjoy it. Rub it in your hair for two minutes. Scrub it in really deep. Rinse that shit. Get that loofa soaped up and get a good lather going. Wash down, same way every time. Rinse. Relax in that shower for a few more minutes. Throw some clothes on and roll into the kitchen.

This is the best part. Bring some water to a boil. In a pot or kettle, who cares what. Mash the button on that coffee grinder. Not one of those chicken shit grinders with the blade. I am talking about a burr grinder, the real deal. Smell the shit out of those fresh grounds. Damn that's good. Dump that shit into a French press. Shake it up some. Smell those fuckers again. Oh shit, the water is boiling. Kill the stove, move the pot to the side. Wait for the boiling to stop. Don't pour it yet and burn that coffee. Give it a minute...190-195F is gold. Pour that water in and spin that swill five times with a spoon. Put the lid on and set the time for four minutes. See that awesome crema on top, you nailed it. Timer is going off! Ease that plunger down and watch the filter screen push the grounds down. Almost time. Pour some into a mug. Take a smell of that awesomeness. Sip it, coat your mouth. Sip again, damn! Sit your ass down and start a chapter in No More Mr. Nice Guy. Really internalize it. Do it.

You need a routine. Something to look forward to with rewards. Video games don't get you shit. Finally nailing the perfect cup from a French press is rewarding. Finally figuring out how to keep it from tasting like crushed aspirin is an accomplishment. Own a routine, really own it. Don't let anything get in the way of that routine. I skipped hanging out with friends at a bar for Monday night football to lift. Don't break routing. This will bleed into other areas of life once you force yourself into it. If you don't go to a gym then do a routine like this. No excuses! You need something to appreciate and this simple plan is a start. This is where you start to better yourself and value yourself. It seems you don't do that yet.

Title	Is sex and relationships even worth it in the end?
Author	Heraclitus94
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	October 27, 2014 8:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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