Some resources on relationships/finding the right person?

recyclablebanthas · 2017-08-22T04:42:12+00:00

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As I have mentioned in my other posts how Picking up is not something which gives me happiness.

I guess it depends on how you define "picking up."

The problem is, the core skills of "pick up" are simply socializing and humans are social creatures so we're kind of doing pick up all the time.

If you're talking about manipulation, that's by no means required to socialize. So I don't understand where the issue is coming from.

I personally feel the more you go deeper into this stuff the more I realize it has been a huge validation trap for me from my wings.

Again, this is according what you define as "pickup." You appear to have chosen a definition from the whole Hollywood project days with Mystery and the like. The guys from those days, who followed that old school way, definitely fell into validation traps.

But then you look at guys like James Marshall, Nick Sparks, Mark Manson, and David Wygant, and it's simply not the same philosophy at all.

So when you say "deeper into this stuff," realize that you are not talking about all of "seduction," but rather, one wing of it. I'm pretty sure we've spoken of this before but it seems that you have continued to ignore the whole "natural seduction" movement in favor of old school stuff that isn't working for you.

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When it comes to picking chicks up and dating I am fine but it's lot of trial and error.

Of course, it's trial and error. Not everyone on Earth is going to get along. Not every person you meet will fit into your life. There's nothing wrong with this. This applies whether you're meeting men or women.

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I want to focus more on my life purposes that just going out now.

You SHOULD have other things in life than going out and meeting new women.

In fact, you can't really find true abundance unless you spend enough time by yourself and reach a point where you're perfectly FINE being alone and don't feel like you're missing out, and yet you know you could go out and have a good time socially whenever you want. If you're not able to walk away from it all, then it's not abundance.

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I'm totally clueless when it comes down to relationships. I am not in scarcity of any kind but I often wonder,Where to look for the right girl and how to know she's the right one.

This doesn't make any sense. Do you not have preferences? You've dated enough to have some perspective about things you like and don't like when you're with someone. That's the basis of knowing whether you're dating someone good for you.

As for knowing if someone is "the right one," or "the one," that's a Disney concept that doesn't fly in the real world and if you can't drop it, you might as well forget about settling down because no one is going to ever be completely "right."

2017-08-22T02:23:17+00:00

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Title	Some resources on relationships/finding the right person?
Author	BoosterGOLD75
Upvotes	4
Comments	5
Date	August 21, 2017 8:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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