(17/m) I wonder what im doing wrong

Fudo_Shin · 2017-09-18T11:31:55+00:00

Don't Focus so much on Girls. There are always People who will like you and those who wont.

Do things you like, People will feel attracted to you once they see how self confident you are.

Personally I suggest visiting a martial arts Club, ist one of the best things you can do for yourself. If you dont like that do something else, socialize and you will meet the right People ;)

About your Problem: Maybe you are trying too hard to please them, that Looks needy to some People. I am also not good at texting so I just dont use it except for planning Dates.

alonzoftw · 2017-09-18T19:20:19+00:00

I would stay away from texting. There are so many mistakes with it that even someone that knows how to text can mess up without even thinking about it. It puts you in a different place than having a conversation in person. Use the phone for setting dates.

SexualSilhouette · 2017-09-18T18:32:25+00:00

Im going to try and explain to you why girls don't talk to you based on prior experience and how to change that. First of all, your looks matter. When girls say 'clothes don't make the man' they're bullshitting you. (To some degree at least) Keep this in mind. You want to be approachable? You want to be worth associating with? You will need to be seen in their eyes as worthy of their time, because essentially why people even talk to each other for social stimulation, and clearly you aren't the most interesting person to talk to.

So how do you do this? First of all, you're going to focus less on your social life, and more on your personal life and mindset. Your attitude, your demeanor. Your physicality. Get yourself in shape. Keep a routine to help your acne (if you have any) Wash your face, Eat clean, Workout, game less, read more. Essentially, refining yourself to the point where you can be confident in your extraverted moments is very, VERY rewarding.

The lesson to be learned is to not worry so much about the idea of 'what I say is what they see'. Its completely true, but it doesn't need to difficult and painful along the way to make a success. You can approach from the 'outside' rather than the 'inside' and then use those opportunities to better your social skills at that point. You want the girl, you'll have to work hard, harder than any others who are more genetically fortunate or naturally alluring. Thats just the mercy of life.

XpzXp · 2017-09-18T11:13:28+00:00

It really depends on what you say and how you set the vibe. Give me an example for a conversation and I will try to see what is wrong. Maybe for you it seems normal but for others it's a bit weird. As I said give an example and me and the other guys here will try to see what is wrong

Zoidberg22 · 2017-09-18T15:23:06+00:00

Wait until college where unless you're really creepy no one cares you approach girls.

Title	(17/m) I wonder what im doing wrong
Author	daynignt009
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	September 18, 2017 11:10 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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