Monk Mode Confusion

sigmared82 · 2014-11-06T01:40:57+00:00

My opinion is you should minimize socializing except with close male friends occasionally. The way I see it, the point is to become self-actualized without the need of validation from others, while working on your self improvement. Socializing too much in monk mode seems like it defeats the point of "monk" mode.

IllimitableMan · 2014-11-06T20:30:26+00:00

Okay so basically not all socialising is equal. Some socialising is productive, most is not. If you are a low SMV man, you probably don't have any alpha friends you can shoot the shit with and really reap rewards from an engaging, enlightening interaction. Your interactions are going to be low value, you're going to sit around playing games saying "yeah dude!" eating junk food and just being adult teenagers with the company you keep. That's the exact kind of shit you want to avoid. I mean you can indulge it once a month if you like, but the better you get as a person the more you're going to frown on that kind of shit and not feel like you need a "cheat day" to go and be lazy and fuck around.

Having social anxiety is a catch-22 situation, you need to socialise to break out of your anxiety, but at the same time you find it harder to socialise because you have anxiety. I recommend implementing approaches/socialising into your self improvement routine as an area of self-improvement that lacks and needs development, but you should be socialising only to hone your skills, not carelessly socialising for the sake of it. On that point you will want to socialise with people who you think can teach you something and have something to contribute to conversation. If you practice socialising with people who are boring themselves, you may accidentally misinterpret their dullness with your inability to socialise, and that will just set you back. You can't lose your vision, you must remain steadfast. Don't get absorbed by or caught up on socialising, it's a very easy trap to fall into.

Now, personally, for me, I find socialising with the average person to actually be detrimental, most people do not elicit positive feelings in me, they are boring, unremarkable, a bit stupid and etc. The only way to bridge that gap, if you are an intellectual type or are likewise underwhelmed by people is through comedy. Watch lots of stand-up comedy, it's not going out and socialising but it's the best way to learn humour, a skill which can bridge vast chasms in social difference, alleviate anxiety and bring you closer to other people. This is a skill you can learn in your house sitting down watching smart men perform routines, Bill Burr, Patrice O'Neal etc.

Introspection is very important, and at the beginning of monk mode you should be focussing on that to better understand yourself, what you need and what you want/expect out of life. Once you have that, and have some kind of plan together of what you need to do and how you're going to do it, then start on building up your sense of humour and fixing your most basic problems. Once you have fixed the things that are easiest to fix, are lifting weights and have some general direction then you can start tackling your social inadequacies. Likewise, because you have direction and increased T from lifting, learning to socialise won't be as difficult as you expect it to be. Reading your post, I can assume you haven't started monk mode yet, or are at the very beginning of it because if you had been in monk mode awhile, you would realise these things. You would feel the increased confidence from lifting, your anxiety would be absent or less pronounced and socialising wouldn't feel so arduous, but more natural.

Also, as an addendum, I want to thank you for reading my blog. A lot of the wordy dark triad stuff I write is to please myself/my intellectual curiosity pertaining to DT theory as well as teach men what to look out for and how to understand dark personalities. The self-improvement stuff like monk mode however is specifically written for the men of the red pill, and it's only as useful as the men who read it can learn from it, apply it to their lives actionably, and add to their SMV with it. You will make it bro if you put the effort into yourself. Try to overcome your vices and get rid of bad habits. I didn't put that in monk mode but it's a huge thing that will hold you back. Addictions, bad habits, poor discipline. Maybe I should write a monk mode part 2, addressing that or simply extend monk mode to include it, I'm not sure.

Good luck dude.

Title	Monk Mode Confusion
Author	PlebDestroyer
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	November 6, 2014 1:02 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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