How to deal with constant rejection?

recyclablebanthas · 2017-10-30T04:31:04+00:00

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No women seem to be interested in me when I talk to them

If you really want help, answer these questions:

How are you meeting these women?
How are you opening them? How do you come up with this opener?
What are you talking to them about? How do you come up with things to talk about?
At what point are you deciding they seem "uninterested?"
What does your social life look like? What sort of activities are you going out for?
Do you have decent friends who are both male and female? Is it easy for you to befriend strangers?

In any case, this idea that "no woman" seems interested, is the sort of distortion that fear and other negative emotions, will lead to. There are ALWAYS some women interested. The question is whether you're letting yourself see them or whether you are scaring them away by assuming they won't be interested.

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and when I ask people that I seem to go along with well out for a drink it's always a no.

If you're really connecting with someone, you really ought to have better ideas than going for a drink.

This implies that you aren't really having connected conversations with people.

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I know I'm no Rian Gosling, but I feel like I realisticly would be a 6 or maybe a 6.5 or some shit.

First, it's Ryan Gosling. :P

Secondly, number scales like this are bullshit. Have you ever been in a room full of guys trying to decide on who is a "10?" There's never any consensus. One man's "10" is another man's "6" or "7." And one guy's "10" is usually put down as a "6" or lower.

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In university you should ALWAYS hit on chicks at the beginning of the spring semester. By the 2nd semester girls have already paired up with dudes.

Wow. No. This is utter bullshit. People are breaking up and getting together ALL the freaking time. This idea that everyone is paired up at a certain time, is flat out wrong.

legodmanjames · 2017-10-30T23:27:51+00:00

you're prolly ugly, go work out more because thats how ugly people look good.
since you're ugly you need to be extra careful about what you wear. find stuff that fits your style and body shape (working out makes more outfits suitable).
since you're ugly you also need to compensate by demonstrating your other qualities as an individual. do you have lots of money and a good job? buy a nice watch. do you have a lot of friends? speak to all of them and hang out with all of them...not the same ones.

i'm just bustin your balls about being ugly btw, just do those things. you could just have bad luck too.

essexaspie · 2017-10-30T18:05:05+00:00

It's tough. I've had ALMOST constant rejection for about 14 months now.

I have gotten laid a handful of times, but each time, they are girls who are clearly somewhat into me from the second I say 'hi'.

The other 98% of girls treat me like a leper, lol

Title	How to deal with constant rejection?
Author	pm_je_kleine_teen
Upvotes	8
Comments	3
Date	October 29, 2017 10:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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